1.) Walk A Mile In Someone Else’s Shoes
When it comes down to it, we can be better people by simply learning see things from others peoples point of view. This is a great way to show compassion to people. You can step into their shoes and become more empathetic towards how they are acting or how they have acted in the past.
Stepping in someone else’s shoes can be done on a daily basis. When people act out in ways that we don’t like, we can simply think about how we have no clue where or what kind of past this person comes from. Maybe they scream and yell because their parents scream and yelled at them when they were coming up. Or they act violent because they were bullied a lot in school.
When you take on perspectives like this, you end up coming from a more compassionate place. Often times we think we are the only ones that exist in this world, that we are perfect. And we don’t take time out of our day to realize that every single person we was on the street or come into contact with daily has a past too.
I am not saying that you should allow people to treat you in ways that aren’t right. I am just saying that we can become a better human being by learning to step into someone else’s shoes before we judge their actions.
This will also allow you to forgive people with more ease, as you will see that people are only humans. They make mistakes. Not that anything justifies the terrible things that may have been done to you. But it allows you to move on and be free of things that others did to you.
It will allow you to drop the heavy feelings you have been carrying around. This will allow you to naturally be a better person. As when we get rid of toxic feelings and emotions, we allow our inner being to shine through. Which, I believe, our core essence is unconditional love.
2.) Volunteer Your Time
When it comes to how to be a better person, we need to focus as much on getting our perspectives off of ourselves and outside of ourselves. That is where volunteer work can come into play. This will allow you to bring joy and kindness into someones lives, someone who has it worse than you.
Find a cause near and dear to your heart, or better yet create one. If you enjoy baseball, you can offer coaching lessons to kids who can’t afford it. If you are great at playing a guitar, why not offer classes that you can hold at a local park. This can allow you to create a legacy through your volunteer work.
3.) Be Honest
There is nothing like lying and having to cover your tracks by making up more lies. It is a downhill spiral, where you will get caught and both look and feel like a terrible person. It is better to be honest and direct with people right off the bat. Even if it doesn’t make you look as good or attractive to them. The best ways to start a continue a relationship is with honesty.
Being 100 percent with someone will allow you to connect with people deeply. Or if they don’t like you for where you are at or being yourself, well then they aren’t meant to be in your life.
Often times we meet people we want to impress. Like a new girl or guy that we are interested in. Or a boss or co-worker. And we want to make sure that they see us in a good light. Often times we tell white or direct lies in order to save face and look better than what we really are.
But in order to be a better person, we need to be authentic with people and ourselves. Not only should we be truthful with others, but the more we do so with ourselves, the better. As often times we start to believe our own lies we tell to ourselves. By being honest with ourselves, we will create a more harmonious inner world. We will see things as they are, not as what we want them to be.
4.) Truly Listen
Nothing is worse than someone not listening to you when you are talking. They know that they are simply waiting for their turn to talk. But when you truly listen to people, people feel heart. And as dumb as this may sound, people love to be heart. You are also acting selflessly when you are listening to people. Look them in their eyes to show them that you are engaged with what they are saying. Pause to reflect as well as pause before you think it is your time to speak.
As often times people won’t be completely finished talking. Learn to take the spotlight off of yourself as much as you can. This will make you into a better person as you will be truly there for the people you are talking to. Making you into more of a therapist and coach. Rather than someone they are just talking to. You will be able to have an impact on people. People will see you as a good person. By becoming a better listener, we will become better people.
5.) Treat People As You Want To Be Treated
This is biblical knowledge that needs to still be applied today. “Do to others as you would have them do to you”. Simply treating others in the same way, shape and form that you would like to be treated. No one wants to be yelled at or acted aggressive with. So don’t do it to other people. By always monitoring how we are treating others, we can catch ourselves when we are treating others in a way that isn’t conducive to how we would want to be treated. And stop right away.
6.) Focus On Life Of Growth
Becoming a better person is a constant persuit. We can always be bettering ourselves. By asking all the time, how can we grow from the things that happen in our daily lives. Or asking how we would do things better next time. Then doing them the way you would have when they come up again in your life.
By asking these types of questions, we can always be learning and growing. Which will make us into more wise and compassionate individuals. Yo can use your daily life to grow.
Also, we should always a have a book going in our lives that is geared towards helping us grow. Something that can help us in both the mental and spiritual areas of our life. The more we grow through the works of others, the better our lives get. The more value we have to offer to people. We become more resourceful.
We can bring this resourcefulness to others and impact them in ways that we couldn’t if we were seeking growth through our daily efforts. Which will make us into better people as we will have the feeling of knowingness that we are making an impact on other peoples lives. Which feels incredible.
Earl Nightingale, who is sort of the godfather of personal development, of which many of the greats have been mentored under, shared a quote that is relevant to this point. He said “If you dedicate reading one hour a day in your chosen field, you will become a national expert in 5 years or less.”
Now this also applies to anything you wan’t to become great at in life. We can become better people by dedicating ourselves to targeted growth in particular areas of our lives. Which the more we do so, the more we can bring value to people in that chosen study.
We would embark on the act of self-transformation as well as transforming our immediate environment. Along with the potential of impacting the world at large. All by starting with mastering something through consistent, daily effort.
When we do this, we become people of value. Which in turn can bring us a massive amount of material success along with allow us to leave a legacy. One that can live on long after we are gone.
7.) Random Acts of Kindness
Have you ever received a call, text or email that showed that someone remembered something small about you? Maybe they asked about how your favorite team was doing. Or they referenced something about what you said in a conversation you guys had a long time ago that had a lot of meaning to you. Being this person to people will make you a better person. This goes back to the one of the tips that proceeded this, being a good listener. When we truly tune in on what people are saying, we can remember these small facts and things about people. Then we can surprise them with these little notes or thoughts. They go a long way into making someone feel special. Which in turn, makes us feel special as well.
8.) Take Responsibility For Not Feeling Like A Good Person
When it comes down to it, we all feel as if we can better ourselves and become better people. Which the first place we should all start is right with ourselves. We need to ask ourselves why we feel as if we need to become better people. What has led us to this conclusion that we need to be a better person? By analyzing ourselves, we can start to fix the reasons and problems that have led us to feel this way.
Maybe, as we begin to look at ourselves, we see that we feel like a bad person because we are neglecting our children our spouse. Or we are not giving it our all and letting other people pick up the slack for us at work. When you look at yourself without denial, you will get answers. The more answers you get, the more things you can correct in your life. By correcting the things that make you feel like a bad person, you will naturally become a better individual.
9.) Don’t Be A Victim
When we are victims, we are turning our energy and peoples energy on us. We are making it all about us. Whether is is about the president that was elected, the weather, the way co-workers are treating us. We can become victims about these things. Which not only affect how we see the world, but affect people that are leaning on us and need us to be the rock. We need to man (or woman) up and be a leader amongst our people.
In order to do this, we need to build up a feeling of resilience to the world. We choose how we react to the world. We dictate how we feel. We can either let things perturb us, or conquer our smaller self but rising above the petty shit that is going on. Because it really is that. Petty. We need to be the rulers of our own domain and not worry about what is going on outside of what we can actually control.
By getting out of victimhood, we see ourselves as more of the masters of our lives. It gives us a feeling of power and courage. And we have the energy we need to give ourselves to the people that need us most.
Tony Robbins said that the biggest problem we have is thinking that we shouldn’t have problems. But when we know that problems are part of life and we accept this, we will become more resilient and not be a victim any longer.
“The greatest sacrifice is when you sacrifice your own happiness for the sake of someone else.”
I listened to a lecture by Oren Klaff who is a big personal development speaker and author. His message was about how leaders eat last. He talked about how leaders need to sacrifice themselves in order for the organization to thrive.
You can do the same thing in your life. What can you begin to sacrifice in order to bring more value to other people in your life? Maybe you can trade in an hour of TV a day for an hour to play with your kids or dogs, or call relatives that you haven’t connected with in a while.
How can we start to sacrifice our own selfish desires and make someone else desire or happiness come to fruition out of our sacrifice?
” With love and patience, nothing is impossible.” – Daisaku Ikeda
I believe the two go hand in hand. Love and patience intertwine beautifully. When you are patient, you are no longer worrying all about your own agenda. You are taking into consideration other things and people that may not be on your own time.
This is especially hard for my Type A friends out there who are looking to become better people through patience! I am the ultimate Type A driver and walker. But this had forced me to learn the art of patience as I am faced with an opportunity to do so daily!
A great article talks about how we can become more patient talking about how we can start with thinking about the last time we were impatient and what caused it. Then we can talk to our inner circle of family, friends and co-workers and have them help us identify what gets us wound up.
Next we should analyze our body next time we are impatient to see what the root cause is, as it can be linked to things like being hungry, tired or fatigued which we can remedy with simple things like a snack or glass of good ole H20! You can even take it a step further and journal and record times that you feel impatient and start to find solutions to them as they can lead you to deeper emotions that you may need to let go of.
The article also offers a few tips on how to manage ourselves when we find that we are becoming impatient, including:
- Take slow deep breathes and count up or down from 10 which will help level out our heart rates.
- Relax our bodies from our toes up to the top of our head. Just take some time to become aware of your body and where you are storing this tension and relax those areas.
- Force yourself to slow down as when we are impatient we are trying to move a mile a minute, mentally and physically.
- Learn to manage your perfectionism as this is a cause of impatience. Allow yourself to be OK with whatever outcome that comes your way. You don’t have to stop pursuing things with all your soul, but just be less attached to the outcome.
12.) Be Accepting
Accept everyone and everything as it is. No matter what race, financial status, sex, height, good looking, fat, skinny, ect. Treat everyone with respect that they deserve by emitting acceptance in all of your encounters. You will be the embodyment of love as people love to feel accepted for who they are. We all have trouble accepting our true self, but if you can be the one to provide them that feeling, you can make them feel incredibly special.
13.) Integrate Spirituality
In order to tap into the ultimate feelings of compassion and love that we can in turn give to the world, we need to integrate a spiritual component into our existence. Most all religions practiced today all encourage their believers and followers to simply be a good person. Whether it is through prayer, mediation or simply living a life as the spiritual leader of that particular religion would leave. Most religions show us how to become better people by acting out their principles and teachings.
14.) Act Like A Role Model
One of the best ways to become a better person is to act as if people are watching you. Especially kids. How would you act if you were being a role model to children? We would act with compassion, care, empathy and love. If we simply act as if we are role models, we can lead a better and more honest life.
15.) Be Cooperative
When we are cooperative, we aren’t trying to shove our opinion down peoples throat. You are able to work with people and see their opinions and perspectives as equal to theirs. I am not saying be a pushover, but we should learn to cooperate in a way that shows respect and doesn’t cause any unneeded ripples in our lives. This can cause us to be more well received by the people around us and create a more harmonious and stress free life.
16.) Ask How The Person You Would Like To Be, Behave
Asking yourself this question can allow you to behave in a way that you truly want to behave in. The great thing about this question is that it can be asked at anytime and in any scenario of your life. If you ask this question about your actions and your current actions aren’t in harmony with the actions of the person you want to be or become, then you need to switch things up. Asking this questions and implementing the answers more more will push us into become the person we want to become. Push us to become a better person.
17.) Work To Your Potential, Not Your Quota
In order for us to grow into the person we want to become, we cannot just clock in and clock out. In both our personal and professional lives. If we know we can do more, then we must. There are many times where we are at work or with a person that we love, and we know we can put more effort in, but we settle for “just enough”. But in order to become a better person, we need to strive to always be doing more than we are required to do. When we know what we are capable of, but we settle for less, we are literally committing spiritual sin and ultimately suicide.
In order to not only bet better people, but be the best version of ourselves, we need to always be asking ourselves if we can do more. If the answer is yes, then we need to start doing so. Once you start living off of your potential and not just quotas, I promise you your life will transform in every single area of your existence.
18.) Burn Your Boats
Tony Robbins talks about how if you want to take the island you need to burn your boats. In other words, when we have no choice but to win or die, we tend to win. This is the same philosophy that we need to take to become a better individual. We need to give absolutely no other option but to be good people.
Act as if it were life or death to be a better person. To take the actions necessary to becoming a better person or else we would die. When we make things life or death, we act in a way that will ensure our survival, as that is what our mind is best at doing. Helping us survive for as long as possible. Us this fact to your advantage.
Don’t give yourself any out.
19.) Be Self Disciplined
Jim Rohn states “In order to have a better life tomorrow, I need to start working on it today.” Who we are today is the bi-product of thousands of yesterdays. We don’t just wake up one day to a catostrophic event that just happened. It was the product of one bad decision after another that finally boiled over.
Even though it appeared like it happened out of nowhere. The decision to eat cheeseburgers instead of salads, the choice to not make the amount of cold calls needed to hit your goals or quotas, ect. These small decisions are dangerous as they don’t show an immediate ripple in water, until one day the whole lake is just gone. They are deceiving. But just know now, that every choice we make is going to affect our future, so why not make good choices and let them add up? WE are going to reap the results of the compound effect in our lives, so why not stack the deck in our favor?
To become a better person, start making the small daily choices that will redirect your destiny to a more positive and happy existence. When you feel like you don’t want to do something, just go do it. This will allow you to build massive amounts of staying power and tenacity. It will give you a tough skin, in a world where most people are very soft. Not many people dedicate themselves to self-discipline. If you will, you will transform your life and won’t even recognize yourself and your surroundings in a few short years.
It is going to be tough, but the time is going to pass anyways. So why not commit yourself today to becoming slaves to healthy habits and daily acts? Food for thought.
Once you integrate good daily habits more and more, it will become more natural for you to do so. You will one day just wake up and hit a stride, where you more naturally partake in daily habits that will be helping you create a life others only dream of.
Jim Rohn also states
“Going for small accomplishments along the way, for however long it takes.”
Let us keep doing this, keep getting these small wins, until we have attained the big win. In every area of our lives.
20.) Trade Anger For Courage
In order for us to become better people, we need to say goodbye to our angry ways. I recently read a book called Power Vs. Force. It is a book by a an named David Hawkins who integrated the scientific practice of muscle testing into is professional practice. The book, although complex, can simply be summed up as negative energy fields make us god weak and strong energy fields make us remain strong. Anger is very low on the scale of level of consciousness, it is a negative energy field.
We cannot tap into our true power by being angry. It is a low vibrating energy field. In order for us to start tapping into true inner power and strength, we need to act with courage. How does someone act when they are being courageous? Well first off, they are giving people who put others first. They also act even when they are scared.
They move forward regardless of how they feel about things, without intense attachment to outcomes. Instead they are more neutral. This allows someone to be able to act with compassion and love, which is one of the highest vibrating energies known to man.
21.) Allowing Your Opinions To Evolve
WE can become better people if we adapt our opinions. We can’t afford to think in black and white, or set things in concrete. That is where pride comes in, and you know what they say about pride, it becomes before the fall. Pride is simply a manifestation of insecurities anyways. It looks like it has all the answers and has overcome fears, but in reality it is the exact opposite.
As we let go of pride by evolving our opinions, thoughts, theories, and perspectives, we can become better people. We are adopting a mindset that allows us to grow and see different sides of things. It allows us to be flexible as we ll as more forgiving people. It can also mean becoming a better and more efficient individual you in career and personal life. Meaning more happiness and success.
When our opinions evolve, we evolve. We are able to constant reinvent ourselves. And with reinvention comes a new and more meaningful life that we can help others through.
22.) Set Some Goals
In order to take a steady approach to becoming a better person, we need to create goals around the areas we want to become better people in. Whether that be family, spiritual, financial, personal growth, etc. What areas of life do you want to become better in and at? Set short term goals, long term goals and micro goals in those areas. Read them daily, write them daily and verbalize them daily. That way they work their way to your subconscious mind which will allow your mind to actively search for things that will help you on your way to your goal.
23.) Find Lessons In The Pain
Pain sucks, but at the end of the day, it is part of life. We can’t escape it. Tony Robbins said it best. The only problems that we have is that we expect not to have problems. We need to accept the fact that there will be problems. But they can either break you or make you. You can be victim to them or you can be victor over them. You can become a better person if you learn to ask yourself what lessons were in the pain.
What did it teach you? How can you learn from it? Once we start to ask these questoins, something great happens. We are not only able to move on from it, but we actually see it in a positive light in our minds eye. We no longer have to suppress feelings any longer. We face our demons and slay them.
This will give us the courage to help others on the path to self-reflection and self-mastery.
The only reason this pain tries to keep resurfacing is because it actually doesn’t want to be in our bodies. IT is trapped and trying to get out. And we have the power to not only free them, but in turn free ourselves in the process.
24.) How Do You Self Sabotage Yourself
WE need to evaluate the ways we are self-sabotaging ourselves in order to extract things that are getting in the way of us becoming better people. Once you and I start to do this, we not only transform ourselves but we also will help make peoples lives around us better. Including, and most importantly our loved ones. As we don’t really notice how our self sabotaging ways can effect the people that we love.
Once we start to pluck these habits out of our lives, our stress levels go down and our happiness levels go up. We become more compassionate people.
To give you some help on understand why tend to act out in self sabotaging ways, I referenced a great article that talks about 6 reasons why we self-sabotage. Some of which include :
- Lack Of Worth – We feel as if we don’t deserve to be successful. When our hard work leads to good things, we shoot ourselves in the foot. It stems from a feeling of inadequacy. Tip: Start seeing yourself as worth of achieving the goal you may be trying to self-sabotage yourself from. List out all the reasons you deserve to have it.
- Control – You feel out of control when you start seeing achievement or good things happen in your life. You then start to control your failure instead of letting it blindside you. It feels safer for us to go down with the ship and be cognizant of it, instead of letting it hit us from behind. Tip: Feel the feeling of fear of success and do your best to let it go. We can only move past it if we are truly present in the feeling and down try to suppress it.
- Fraudulence: We think that as we start to attain more success and status that we will be called on it for being a fraud. Worrying about what others will do to call us out. We worry about being revealed for being a false hero that we became. Tip: Realize that we are all going to have haters. But if you do, that simply means that the are reflecting their insecurities on you and that they simply don’t have the courage or self belief to do the things you are doing, so natually they attack you.
25.) Create A List Of Values
We act in accordance to who we think we are and who we believe we are. It is one of the biggest needs of humans, to act consistent to how we see ourselves and how others see us. In order to start changing how we see ourselves, we need to list out our values so we can start living accordingly to them. We need to live by them daily so that they literally become us and we act accordingly from there.
It becomes a statement of who we are. So not only should we list out the top core values we want to live by. But we also need to list out the ones that we don’t want to live by. This will also help us create opposite values that are more alighned with the new sense of self we are trying to create.
Keep this list on you at all times and refer to it often. It will keep it at your forefront. You can build an entire new persona doing this. Making yourself a much better person.
A great article talks about how to define your core values. It gives us some tips on how to create good ones in your life, which include:
- Inspirational – Personal values should provoke us to achieving a sense of fulfillment and direct us towards our life purpose. They should uplift us when times get tough.
- Long Lasting – They should be solid in who you are or want to be, not vulnerable to be changed on the whim.
- Provide Guidance – They should help be a guiding light amongst how you base your everyday decisions along with how you deal with relationships.
- Unique – the creation of personal core values should be unique to you as an individual. You can reference other peoples but each on you create should be unique to you as an individual. Who and how you are and how you want to be and become.
- Meaningful – These core beliefs and values should push us towards living a meaningful life and a purpose driven life.
26.) Travel More
The more we get out of our comfort zone the better. If you can, travel as much as you can in this life. The more we travel, the more we get to know cultures. We develop compassion towards other individuals and groups by seeing how they are and what they stand for by immersing ourselves temporarily or permanently in their culture.
Often times we have to offer blind trust in people when we travel to other countries who speak a different language then us. This allows us to be vulnerable and see that people aren’t as bad as we may think. We see that at the end of the day, almost all people are truly good people. This reflects our own loving and compassionate self back to us, helping us see our true essence, and become better people because of it.
27.) Love Everybody and Everything
We can become the best humans possible by simply exercising the gift of love. It is free and one of the most, if not the most powerful force in the universe. We all desire to feel loved. But when we give it, we feel love. Love comes from within and when we give it, it tends to come back to us as well. We can be happy, healthy and prosperous by simply loving everyone we come in to contact with.
You don’t have to say it out loud! But just mentally say “I love this person”. Do so all day and you will feel happy and calm. Love yourself, love the people in your life, love your pets, love strangers, love the weather, love things you can’t change, love things you want to change. Bring loving energy to your existence on a daily basis and I promise you, your life will change drastically!
This is the teachings of most all religions. Become more loving. The teachers of most religions were the highest beings who taught from a place of love and compassion. Who also believed that we all have this Christ-like or Budhha-like consciousness within us. The fastest way to doing so is to live out who you truly are. Which I believe is a being whose core essence is that of unconditional love.
28.) Start a Blog or Vlog
The best way to connect to a massive amount of people is through the likes of the internet. Never has there been a time where we can connect to so many people. You have your own voice. Why not projected it out to people who need your advice. With the amount of people on the earth, you are destined to find your audience that will listen, read and respond.
By reaching out to these people, you can become a coach and a guide. A helping hand. This will allow you to become a better person and feel better about the life that you live. You will have a sense of fulfillment that colors your everyday existence with the knowing that you are making an impact on people. Oh, you can also make money from it too!
If you like the spotlight, then offer up a video blog. If the spotlight isn’t for you, then simply create a blog that your write on. If either of these aren’t for you, then you can create podcasts. You can also get people to ghostwrite your content if you simply want to focus on creating videos. The options are endless.
Integrating a self-care routine can allow you to take time for yourself to re-cooperate and recover. IT can help you deal with the stressors that come across your plain of existence. This will help us physically and mentally recover and be able to bring a healthier mindset to our daily lives. For ourselves as well as the people around us. We will be able to be the rock that people need to lean on. Which this starts by making sure we are at 100 percent . Or close to it as possible.
Otherwise if we don’t do this, we will be on edge and will snap and lash out, acting in ways the aren’t conducive to our goal of becoming a better person.
If you need some ideas on how to integrate self care tips into your life, Iwrote an article on the best self care tips, which you can check out here: 61 Self Care Tips
30.) Think About Your Legacy
Creating a legacy can be both selfish and selfless. We want to leave this world with having created an impact on people. We want to leave our footprint. So we need to think about how we want to be remembered. Once we hone in on how we want to be remembered, then we can start acting in ways that will allow us to be remembered that way. So if we want to be better people, we need to act in ways that people will know us by as better people. Today, tomorrow, next year and even when w are gone. Sculpt your daily actions based on leaving a legacy of being known as a good or even great person.
The benefits of meditation are literally endless. The one awesome thing it does is help us quiet down our minds. When we do this wee feel our true essence. Which the bible refers to it as the the peace that passeth all understanding. When we meditate we are transcending our mind, which all the mind is is thoughts that almost always relate to personal gratification in some way or another. We are able to take the focus of ourselves and put more energy and emphasis on the things outside ourselves. When we do this, we naturally become better people as our awareness is shifted from selfish to selfless.
You begin to feel a sense of oneness with the people around you and the world at large. A feeling that we are all in this together. It is a way of naturally treating people as you would be treated as you begin to feel a sense of connection with the world.A deeper connection to other human beings. You treat them better as you see a bit of you in them.
32.) Drop The Excuses
WE can be come better people by simply owning up to our faults, problems and simply taking full responsibility. If you are late somewhere, don’t blame it on traffic, take it on the chin. If you flake on an event you were supposed show up at, tell the people that you flaked and that is that. No excuses, just full honesty.
People will appreciate you being real with them. They may be mad, but if you fess up and don’t try to justify your actions with a list of excuses, then people will give you a second chance.
Just be authentic as you possibly can. No one is perfect. We all mess up. But good people don’t make excuses for their actions, they take responsibility for them.
33.) Learn To Laugh More
The more we take things serious, the more serious we react. We become angry and resentful beings who walk around carrying all the negativity that we have encountered along with wearing a negative attitude on our sleeves. Don’t take things to serious. Life is too short. Learn to laugh things off as much as you can. It diffuses the negative charge associated to the event along with just makes you more resilient to the world. The world can’t hurt you as much if you are laughing in it’s face!
Have you ever seen a mother who is trying to discipline their child but the child just keeps laughing at their mom? It is hilarious to watch because the childs laughter is such a powerful weapon. The mom will have the upper hand momentarily and just keep losing it until the child has complete control and then the mom ends up laughing too!
Learn to navigate your way through this life with laughter! Happier people are simply better people as they are in a better mood. They want to do things for others as they are already in a spirit of giving as they are not taking their personal matter very serious.
We ultimately choose how much power we give to situations and scenarios in lour life. Even though we “should” give things a lot of energy, doesn’t mean we have to. Plus there are so many benefits of laughter that can benefit our health. Which when our health is good, we feel and act like better human beings. Some of the benefits of laughter include:
- Stress relief from anger
- Organ stimulation which brings more oxygen to vital organs
- Increased endorphins (feel good hormones)
- Improved immune system
- Pain relief
- Helps you cope with life
So start laughing more! To get yourself going, hop on Netflix and start watch a comedy of one of your favorite comedian.
34.) Think About Your Funeral
Look I don’t mean to be morbid, but we need to think about what we want people to say about us when they gather at our funeral. What do we want to leave in peoples heads about us? We need to take the actions today and everyday from here to make sure we leave these people with the fondest memories possible. Leaving them with all of the attributes about ourselves that we brought to them consistently throughout our time on this earth.
This can allow us to come to grips with the fact hat are time is so limited. We are here today and gone tomorrow. This will put things into perspective that we don’t have a lot of time to create a great legacy that we want to create. Which will force you and I to get going NOW!
So let’s start acting in a way where a massive amount of people will gather to celebrate all the love, joy, compassion and patience we brought to them!
35.) Compliment Yourself
We can become better people by recognizing how great we are. If no one is telling us how great we are, well we can do it ourselves. Plus no matter how much worldly recognition you get, it will never be enough. I mean look at Micheal Jackson. The great thing is is that we can compliment ourselves a much as possible. SO what if it seems self-indulgent! That is all for this one! Simple and easy, tell yourself how great you are every single day!
36.) See Things As They Are
Often times we act with denial. Even when we secretly know what we are in the wrong or that we need to change something. Are there areas in your life that you need to shine a light on without denial? In order to be the best people we can be, we need to act in the most truest way to the scenario. Denial clouds judgement and keeps us away from growth.
When we let it go, we can start to see what is real and what needs to be changed. This can range from habits that we tell white lies to ourselves about, or destructive habits that are keeping us from reaching our potential, physically mentally, emotionally and spiritually.
Hone in on a couple areas of life that you need to work on. Really work on seeing things as they are, not how you want them to be. That way you can take steps towards making it how you want to be for real.
When you and I do this, we can become more well rounded humans. We will also feel practice since we will now be taking action to better our lives instead of lying to ourselves.
37.) Communicate With Loved Ones
We all take our loved ones and close people in our life for granted. The people that have been there the most for us, often times get neglected or forgot about the most. The best way to become a better person is to start reaching out to these people more often and telling them how much they mean to you. Communicating your love and appreciation to them as much as possible.
Often times someone will leave our lives and we will regret that we didn’t tell them we loved them enough. Let us not feel that way with anyone in our lives. WE need to reach out often to our parents, friends, children, cousins. Even people who may have done us wrong, but because of them we are who we are.
Just reach out to people and thank them for existing in your life and what they have done for you. People love to feel recognized. When you do this, they will only be there more for you. It also feels good to let them know your feelings of admiration for them. It makes both parties feel great.
38.) Realize People Have It Worse
When we really think about it and put things in perspective, most of it don’t have it that bad. We need to think about how people have it much worse than us. We often times complain or assume the victim role about what is going on in our lives. But the truth is that some people would actually kill to have our problems to get away from the terrible life that they have. Realizing this fact can help you and I start to really prioritize our life and our problems.
I am not saying that you don’t have real problems, not at all. I am just saying that we don’t need to blow them out of proportion. When we do this, we are making it all about us. We tend to neglect the people around us when we are so consumed with our own problems. When we do this, often times people in our lives suffer more than us.
39.) Say No More Often
In order for you and I to devote our time to the people we love and truly be present, we need to say NO to other things. When we say yes to everything, we spread ourselves way to thin and end up giving a half ass effort to everything we do along with either regretting not being fully present when we needed to be. Along with being stressed about the thing we are about to do that we said yes to in which we really didn’t want to say yes to.
You have good intentions by saying yes, I am totally victim to this. But at the end of the day, you can’t give yourself completely to the person or situation you are in or around if you are totally drained from everything else that you have been doing.
40.) Stop Gossiping
Gossiping is not only terrible as the person isn’t there to defend themselves. It is also terrible for the fact that it makes you look horrible. It is simply a reflection of feeling insecure about ourselves so we talk about others instead of facing our own inner demons.
To become a better person, we need to start uplifting other people instead of bringing them down. If someone starts to gossip about someone, let’s make a point to find something positive about that person to say instead. Doing this will blow the people away that you are talking to and switch the whole dynamic of the conversation.
If they continue to gossip, either walk away or call them out for it. It isn’t right. It’s petty. If you have a problem with someone, say it to their face or don’t say it at all.
41.) Embrace Failure
This may be one of the most important out of the entire list of tips to implement to become better people. In order to really move forward in life and actually get over fear is to embrace it. Fear is actually not the worst thing that can happen. If we see fear as simply a stepping stone to success, we won’t be paralyzed by it. The more you face these fears, the smaller new fears feel. It is an upwards cycle towards stepping into a life full of courage.
When we face our fears, we can help others do the same. We can inspire and be a beacon of hope for those. Allowing us to impact people in a domain that most people let dictate their lives.
We feel so much better about ourselves the more we face fear head on instead of trying to dance around it. The better we feel about ourselves the better humans we become, naturally.
42.) Stop Comparing Yourself To Others
When we compare ourselves to other people we are essentially feeling a sense of lack and a feeling of not being good enough. It is a deeply rooted feeling in all of us that we won’t measure up to our own expectations or others.
The only time you and I should be comparing ourselves is to our old self. We should us that as the only benchmark for success. We need to strive to become better versions of ourselves. Sounds corny but is the only way to avoid feeling inferior simply because someone is ahead of you. The fact of the matter is is that they are most likely behind you in other areas of their life.
No one has it all together, even though their social media page might portray that they do. Simply compare yourself to where you were last month, last year, last decade. See how much you have frown and progressed in areas that you have. In the ones that you haven’t simply don’t judge yourself for not doing so. Just map out a plan that allows you to look back and a year and be happy with how far you have come.
43.) Always Have Goals
Without vision the people perish as the Bible says. When it comes down to it, when we have goals we are motivated and have hope for a better future. These two ingredients are a recipe for more happiness. Getting the goal doesn’t make you as happy as the feeling of progress does. When we have goals, we wake up faster and ready to attack the day with more energy.
When we don’t have goals, we are literally dying. So set goals in every single area of your life. They can be big or small. Just set them and when you hit them, set more.
44.) Cultivate Curiosity
When we bring a level of curiosity to our existence, we tend to act in a way that we are excited about life. Instead of being closed off. When this happens, our interactions with others become colored with a level of excitement and a place that comes from learning and growing. We can learn more from others perspectives and insights than we could if we were close minded.
It also allows us to engage with the world better. Instead of having tunnel vision. Having a curious spirit will bring a child like spirit. In which we become fascinated and enamored with life. Instead of taking things for granted. The more you do this, the more your appreciate your daily life and the people that come in and out of it. Making you an all around better person.
45.) Push Yourself When You Don’t Want To
The best way to become the best version of ourselves is to simply be our own motivator. We need to take action especially when we don’t feel like it. If we don’t want to work out, we need to hop out of bed and go to the gym. If we don’t want to make the last few cold calls, we need to do so.
No one is going to do it for us. We need to learn how to essentially bully ourselves into doing what we need to do but don’t want to do.
Just because you feel like shit, doesn’t mean you need to act like you feel like it. Move forward regardless of you you feel. The pro goes to work. Plain and simple. It doesn’t matter what the mind is telling you, how sick you are, how tired you are. Being a good person means rising and grinding regardless of how you feel.
This takes practice, but when you and I start to do this more, our life gets better and better.
It is essentially building good habits that are hard to establish, but are easy to live with. Instead of build bad habits, which are easy to form but hard to live with.
This will make you into a good person because it will allow you to conquer your small self. The self that is OK with the stat quo and afraid of change and growth. When you start to conquer this small self, you take on the world with more ferocity and strength. You become a warrior and like a heat seeking missile, you start to not stop until you reach your goals, regardless of the setbacks or feeling terrible along the way.
Like Joe Rogan says on one of his podcasts. The days we feel bad are probably going to out number the days in which we feel good. We need to embrace this fact and move forward regardless of how we feel. Don’t let your mind take you out just because you don’t feel perfect!
46.) Give Grace
People are going to screw up, we are only human. But if we learn to give grace before we criticize, we will become better humans. We will learn to transcend our ways of seeing the negative in people and start to see the positive first. Show people compassion through the form of grace before condemning them for their actions.
If someone is late to a meeting with you, give them grace. If your workout partner doesn’t show for your workout session, give them grace. Of course do not tolerate this behavior over and over, but learning to give grace instead of attacking people or feeling resentful, will allow us to be better people and simply feel better as we won’t be carrying around a bunch of anger and negative emotions.
People expect to get in trouble for their bad actions. This simply goes back to schooling where we were punished for actions that weren’t conducive to what we were “supposed” to do. But we don’t have to follow this way of living. People will appreciate the grace and will be less likely to perform the act again if you do so.
47.) Pursue Your Passions
There is nothing more beautiful than someone who is living out their passions. They simply exude joy and confidence that surpasses any other person who isn’t pursing their passions. It allows them to access their true self in which they are not trying to be anyone but them. When we are being ourselves, we are simply better people as we are not trying to conform to how we want other people to perceive us.
We are being truly authentic with people and authenticity brings trust and builds better relationships. Pursuing your passion as often as possible and living your passions will make you happy. It will allow you to live longer and put more life in your years on this earth.
It will also allow you to feel as if your life has meaning. And when we feel as if we have meaning, we naturally act in a more positive way. This will come off in everything we do in life. Allowing us to be better people because of it.
You also tap into a source of endless energy when you are living out your passions, allowing you to exude vitality and simply have a feeling of competence. As we truly need at least one area of life what we feel competent in in order to have a happy existence.
So go after your passions and develop yourself in them as much as possible and you will create a better life because of it!
Become A Better Person Quotes
- “I refuse to go back to the old me. I’m b coming a better person using my past experiences as lessons.”
- “Everyday I become a better person. Not for anyone, but for myself.”
- “Becoming a better person shouldn’t involve change, it should involve growth.”
- “I am committed to being a better person today that I was yesterday. Better thoughts, better decisions, better actions.”
- “It’s not how good you are, it’s how good you want to be.”
- “I like the person I’m becoming The things I went through last year honestly made me a better person this year.”
- “The better person you become, the better person you will attract.”
- “Every single day you should wake up and commit yourself to becoming a better person.”
- “Take what you learned about yourself and become a better person.”
- “Everything n life happens for a good reason. It teaches you something. Treat every mistake you made as a lesson to make you a better person.”
- “Drop old habits, step into higher standards and choose to be a better person than you were yesterday.”
- “In order to grow and become a better person, you have to admit your faults and admit that there are things that you need to work on.”
- “Eat healthy, workout, read books, be positive, expand your consciousness. Do things that will help you become a better person inside and out.”
- “Maybe being broken helps you become a better person.”
- “Be with someone who makes you a better person.”
- “The only person you should try to be better than is the person you were yesterday.”
- “Just always be the better person. And make your intentions pure. What and who you are is what you’ll attract, what you’ll maintain. Pain is inevitable and it will always exist, but if you focus on understanding what you are feeling and why you are feeling it, you will overcome it.”
- “Because of you I can feel myself slowly but surely becoming the me I have always dreamed of being.” – Tyler Knott Greson
- “Your beliefs don’t make you a better person, your behavior does.”
- “There is always room to be a better person. Always.”
- ‘So year I’m putting the past behind me so I can become a better person, I hope you do the same.”
- “Light that lies deep inside of me, come forth in all they majesty. Show me thy gaze. Teach me thy ways. That I a better person may be. Love that lies deep inside of me, come forth in all thy mastery. Let me by thy gaze. Let me teach they ways. Tat I a better person may be.”
- “Those who seek a better life must first become a better person.” – Jim Rohn
- “If you want a better world composed of better nations, inhabited by better states filled with better countries, made up of better cities., comprised of better neighborhoods, illuminated by better churches, populated by better families. Then you’ll have to start by becoming a better person.” – Tony Evans
- “Let your past make you better not bitter.”
- “Sometimes you have to kind of die inside in order to rise from your own ashes and believe in yourself and love yourself to become a new person.” – Gerard Way
- “I want to be a better person. I want to be a stronger person. I want to be someone who hurts less.” – Brian Molko
- “Everything in life happens for a good reason. It teaches you something. Treat every mistake you made as a lesson to make you a better person.”
- “The good man is the man who, not matter how morally unworthy he has been, is moving to become better.” – John Dewey
- “When it is a good to apologize and ask forgiveness from God, it’s just as important (perhaps more so) to extend it towards the person that you wronged. Becoming a better person or trying to make amends with the universe only works when you start with the one you owe it to.” – Donna Lynn Hope
- “In order for you to become a better person, tell yourself I will start doing things right.”
- “An arrogant person considers himself perfect . This is the chief harm of arrogance. It interferes with a person’s main task in life – Become a better person.”
- “When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.” – Paulo Coelho
- “I’m on a constant path of self-discovery and change. I’m trying to become a better person, a nicer person. I love therapy – it’s brilliant.” – Julia Sawalha
- “my only relationship goal is to be with someone who motivates me to become a better person and show me the potential I didn’t see in myself.”
- “If you’re not making someone eles’s live better, then you’re wasting your time. Your life will become better by making others lives better.” – Will Smith
- “The biggest obstacle to people becoming better is that you have to really want to be a good person in order to be a better person, and most people would rather be other things.” – Denis Prager
- “Be the kind of person you want to meet.”
- “When you see a good person, think of becoming like him. When you see someone not so good, reflect on your own weak points.” – Confucius
- “The best love is the one that makes you a better person, without changing you into someone other than yourself.”
- “My New years resolution: become a better person.” – Shay
- “In order to grown and become a better person, you have to admit your faults and admit that there are things that you need to work on.” – Sonya Parker
- “You make the world a better place by making yourself a better person.”
- “Do not expect to become perfect at once. If you do you will be disappointed . Be better today than you were yesterday and be better tomorrow than you are today.” – Lorenge Snow
- “Better is not something you wish, it’s something you become.”
- “Associate with those who inspire you to be a better person.”
- “Being a good person does not depend on your religion or status in life, your race or skin colour, political views or culture. It depends on how good you treat others.”
- “I like the person I’m becoming. The things I went through last year honestly made me a better person this year.”
- “A good person can make another person good, it means that goodness will elicit goodness in the society, other persons will also be good.” – Bhumibol Adulyadei
- “My personal milestone is to become a good person. I want to win peoples heart by my kindness. And be in their heart forever and live those precious moments.” – Saurabh Gupta
Conclusion To How To Be A Better Person
At the end of the day, becoming a better person really takes us turning our awareness out towards the world. How can we help friends, family, our society and the world at large. This is what it all comes down to when answering the question of how to be a better person. We need to take the spotlight off of us and put it on other people. The more we do this, the better we feel about ourselves, which is really why we want to become better people. We want to feel good in our own skin. We want to want to live with ourselves.
I hope you enjoyed this post! Share with me what you got from it and what your favorite tip was. Along with if you have anything to add. I would love to hear what you have to share! Have a great day my friends.