How To Keep Going When Everyone Else Is Giving Up
We all admire that person that just keeps pushing. Even though they may even seem delusional at some point, that it will never happy for them, they simply refuse to give up.
They keep hitting and hammering and kicking that wall, and then one day after years or even decades of of hitting that wall, that sucker flies open.
And this new person that just pops on the scene, is hailed as an overnight success.
When they could have been rapping underground for years, playing piano in divebars with people disrespecting them for countless 100’s of nights. Or they’ve been getting side acting gig after side acting gig and then one day they show up on the set of a Ron Howard movie set after being “discovered”.
There is a romance to all of this. Also a deeply rooted anxiety in which we may feel that we have the potential. That we are like a souped up muscle car, ready to hit tops speeds, if we could only get someone to open the garage for us.
And yet, that reward is not promised. And that is where a lot of the anxiety comes from. Along with where you and I can get stuck.
Some people may never even start because of the fact that there is no promise. No guaranteed massive returns on investments of countless hours and years of grinding for our short and long term goals.
And look I am coming to you in process here, I have not “made it” as big with blogging and real estate even close to as big as I want to or that I continuously envision upon awakening and going to sleep envisioning it each night.
And yet, I will bring to you what has worked for me to keep going to keep persevering. And hopefully ultimately write my follow up, part 2 to you in a couple years or even at the end of my life, sharing with you that it was all worth it.
That I made it, and that you can to.
So below, it is not perfect, but it is a list of tips on how to persevere when you want to throw in the towel.
In hopes that it sparks something deep within you, the giant within if you will, that refuses to give up. And maybe, just maybe, it will be the list you need to where you were about to quit and give up. But because of this list, you keep going and ultimately we read about you one day.
I wrote this one for you my friend.
How To Keep Going When All Hope Seems Lost
Remember the Dark Times
It is said that we have both a light and a dark side. I mean even the genesis and basis of the smallest origins of human anatomy, have a light and dark, or a proton and neutron.
Negative and positive.
Even in a biblical and diabolical sense, it is always a fight between good and evil. And who will prevail.
No one knows, and yet I feel as if our darkness is encouraged to be remained hidden. That we are encouraged or at least feel as if we have to act as if everything is perfect. That we have it all together. And yet, we all know that is BS.
No one has it all together. And when we act like we do so, we are missing out on a big piece of the puzzle, again in my opinion, that can take us past the point of wanting to give up. To break through our preconceived wall of where we feel we are going to give up. And ultimately have that breakthrough we so desperately need to give us at least a smidgeon of hope. That little bit we need to keep our wheels turning just long enough to get to the top of the hill.
So back to our darkness, I think that we can truly use our dark times to drive us.
When we are ready to give up on our plan A, or just in life in general, we can think back to the times where we lost that loved one. To where the love of our lives walked out on us. To where the person we thought would come through for us never did.
And then FEEL those emotions again. As if we are experiencing it in the here and now.
We can use these emotions to drive us. As right now, they me consciously or subconsciously essentially anchors for us.
We need to use this darkness to bring us to the light. And by experiencing these emotions of these let downs and set backs, we see that we are still alive. Still breathing. That we broke through. That we survived. And that we are surviors.
Let it fuel you instead of siphon the gas out of you. Get to a point of anger and disgust with that part of your life. Then let it launch you from your platform.
Keep going and forging ahead. Not because these people hurt or betrayed you. But instead because you are now mastering your dark side. And bleeding out its power from it. Because the darkside likes to think it has it’s hold on you.
But when you can use the darkness, you are now the true master, and ultimately it will dissipate through productive forward action in spite of what has happened to us.
Fall In Love With Micro Failures
Again, we all romanticize about the big win. The one that puts us in the spotlight. Or at least one big enough to feel like our lives matter. That we have what it takes. And that we are making good use of our time here on earth.
But if we don’t learn to love the little failures just as much as the big win, then we will never make it.
We can either dig our own grave or dig ourselves out of the grave, all with the same shovel.
We have the power, so never forget that fact.
And yet, we can start piling these little failures on top of ourselves until we suffocate.
And the only way out of this pile is to stop piling and bail out and give up.
Or is it?
Instead of using these blocks to burry ourselves, why not use them as stepping stones?
That when we reach a micro failure, the deal falls through, the client doesn’t show for our meeting or someone we thought was meant to be, turns out simply not so. We can see it as something that will put us on the ultimate path towards the true and ultimate success and big win that we desire.
We need to be seeing it as a sign post that tells us to simply go a different direction.
Sure we may hit detours on our way to our destination. That does not mean we just pack up, turn around and go home, right?
No, the GPS recalculates and we go on a different road or highway, and the best part is that we are still MOVING FORWARD even if it takes a little longer.
Look at it this way, the more micro failures you have, the more you have a chance to win big.
Love them, cherish them even. This is part of the game. It always has been and always will be.
If the path didn’t have them, these destination it leads to will not be beautiful and soul fulfilling. It just won’t.
Envision yourself, right here and now, on how you feel after you have took your bruises, took your lumps. After you have fallen and risen and fallen and risen over and over. And ultimately, like the phoenix, you rise from your own ashes, the ultimate win.
Transcending the self that kept telling you to quit. To throw in the towel. The one that worried about what people thought. The one that you’ve dealt with all your life, trying to make you take the easy road.
You once and for all, die to that self. And are reborn into a new state of consciousness. And when consciousness expands on this level, you NEVER go back to the old state of consciousness.
Keep going, celebrate your little failures, because you know that they are simply little roadblocks leading you away from the client or person that isn’t meant for you faster. Hence setting you on the path at a more rapid rate, towards your hearts desires.
And again, embrace that micro failures are part of the process. Engrain this into your skull. Accept that this is a big time fact. And after you and I have accepted this, we can move forward with a knowing that this is what it is. And we will win no matter what.
Don’t Care What People Think
I know I have been caught in this trap before. Where I either refuse to actually get started on something because someone has told me it can’t work. Or that the market is impacted. Or it is a recession. ETC.
Or I let peoples voices have too much power over me. I let their negative and limiting beliefs replay, over and over in my head. Giving them way to much internal credit.
People will project how they feel THEY would do in the things you are trying to do. They are reflecting back their own insecurities to you.
Plain and simple, they are showing us how THEY feel on the inside.
So let’s say you are trying to become a realtor. And that person comments that there are too many people trying to fight for business, and that because of that, you will never get any of the business.
All they have said, in laymans terms, is that they feel as if they could never have what it takes to compete in a market that is impact. And the fact of the matter is, what market isn’t impacted!?
They way you handle this is to always search for a belief that you can come up with that supports you persevering and ultimately winning.
In this case, you can choose to think with more of a growth mindset and abundance mindset.
Buy Into Denial
This may seem incredibly counter intuitive and yet, I can’t emphasize how important denial can be.
When it comes down to it, realists are more accurate and optimists are more productive and tend to not give up as easy.
I think they are using denial more so than trying to “see things as they are”. Sometimes you need to see things better than they are. To fake yourself into keeping going.
Realists tend to see the world in a way to where they let reality dictate what they are going to do or how they are going to act.
And yet, I think there is a better way. Like Tupac Shakur said:
“Reality is wrong, dreams are for real.”
When we are constantly living through our dreams, we are living in a alternate reality in a sense. Where we take action based on a more abundant reality.
We are seeing things as they could be, which can be much better place to operate from than often times what our current reality looks like.
So use the heck out of denial. When people state things that seem realistic but are counter productive to you staying in the game, put the denial up.
Laugh at them and wish the best for them. Don’t get caught up in their limiting beliefs, and then go back to work.
Just tell yourself that you are almost there, that it is going to happen soon, that the breakthrough is right around the corner. Even if it is not or appears not to be.
Hang Out With People That Are Climbing
No matter how good we are doing in life, and how good our current close friends are doing, we can get caught in a state of being stagnant. If we are not growing.
I think that the most important ingredient in us MAKING it to where we want to be, is simply going to come from the people we hang out with, people we date or are married to and the books/content we consume.
With are either growing our dying. And the sources above are either watering our seed or they are not watering it and contributing to it drying out.
Hang out with people who are in pursuit of becoming their best self. Who are never satisfied. Who are not content with the stat quo. And who aren’t stuck where they are and not willing to grow.
And the same goes for you and me. We need to continue to grow to. If we aren’t growing, we are dying. And if we are dying, that means so are our dreams, goals and visions for our life.
Action is the cure all for the negative voices and limiting beliefs that we can experience when we are ready to give up.
Become a person that is relentless. Tell yourself that you keep going when other give. Up that you act not matter how you feel.
Plain and simple. Keep that as your daily mantra. I promise that if you do, your brain will one day accept that as reality. And you will start responding to that mantra with something like “damn right I am”.
There Is No Making It
Lastly, but I think most importantly is that we need to see life in a way to where we don’t “arrive”.
Beauty, joy, growth and success can be found in the journey more so than the destinations. I mean the fun of going on vacation is often times most found in exploring the new destination.
Of course you have to lay on the beach and bask in the sun.
And yet, if we see the journey as being the most fulfilling part, it will give us the energy and steam necessary to wake up, day in and day out, and get after it.
I think that if we do this, we have the best shot and “Making it” at a much bigger level than we could if we arrived and put it in park.
Fall in love with the journey, they people you meet on the journey, but be the person that keeps climbing the mountain. Not because you want to get to the peak, but because you want to enjoy the pursuit itself. Let the top just being the icing on the cake. And then look off into the distance with anticipation and excitement. For in the distance is a higher and more intimidating mountain.
Which you are now more prepared to climb after reaching the last peak.
Conclusion To How To Keep Going
SO there we are my friend. I hope you enjoyed the article and it may have been what you needed to keep going when times may be tough for you.
That it is the main ingredient that you mix in to the mix. That you can reflect upon that helped you build the best comeback story of all time.
Or at very least, it will keep you going at least one more day.
You are close to a breakthrough. I know it. I feel it.
I believe in you.
Thank you for reading this post and I really appreciate you spending your precious time with me today.
I look forward to hearing your advice on the topic in the comment sections.
What did I miss on the topic? What was your favorite part of the article?