How To Take Care Of Yourself
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” – Buddha
The amount of love you have for yourself dictates how much love you have for others. How much love you can show and give to others. The more you love yourself, the happier you will be. You will treat people better as well. Which will create more loving and harmonious relationships in your life. Creating a more fulfilling and gifted life.
Also, you won’t tolerate people treating you like garbage. As when we aren’t loving of ourselves we let people walk all over us. So it allows you to take the power back.
But how do you love yourself? Truly do so?
Well there are many ways you can do so. Which below I go into depth on how exactly to love yourself.
So that you can live a life that overflows with self love.
Enjoy my friends.
How To Take Care Of Yourself (Self Love Tips)
Tell Yourself YOU love YOU
Simply stating over and over “I like myself, I love myself.” This mantra of sorts will become more and more ingrained in your subconscious mind the more you say it. There is a law that states that whatever you hold in your conscious mind the most becomes part of your reality. This is the case with this thought. We can say it until we make it. Instead of faking it til we make it!
There may be no better way to love yourself and raise your self esteem by repeating this. Try it 50 to 100 times per day. As soon as you wake up or right before you go to bed. Really anytime throughout the day. It can work miracles in your life.
The most spiritual beings to ever walked this earth have preached that love is within us. That which we are seeking is more than close, it is us. We can implore the ability to love ourselves every single minute of the day if we so choose.
You can only truly love yourself as much as you love other people. When you become caring for others people in your life. Valuing them as much as you do yourself, you will feel loving feelings. Which feel great in our bodies. It feels almost natural as we are accessing something we cut off. But have inside us. Love is our true nature. The more we express our true nature, the more natural it becomes.
We simply forgot that we had this ability. But once we regain it we can start to do it more and more. Until it permeates into every aspect of our lives. The more we do so, the more we love ourselves.
So give love everywhere you go.
Take Care of Your Body
The best way to show that you love yourself is to take care of yourself. The people in this world that are not happy with themselves end up taking it out on their own body. Most the time subconsciously. But still it affects your body.
You can take the power back by loving yourself enough to create a strong and healthy body. By engaging in working out and eating nourishing meals. You can do it. Start slow and build momentum.
Don’t Beat Yourself Up
We have all had regrets in life. Things we wish we could go back and do over. But we can’t. We can’t go back, only forward. When you stop beating yourself up for things you did and instead choose to learn from them, you feel better about yourself. You have beaten yourself up too long about these things.
Look at it this way. You have given yourself the punishment you think you “deserve”. So now that you have done so, you can move on. There is no need to continue punishing yourself. It isn’t making anything better.
Instead take it as a learning and growing experience. If it affected someone else and you feel guilty about it, reach out to that person. This will help you forgive yourself more rapidly. As well as make peace with people in your life.
We are all human, but by stopping beating ourselves up, we move into a place of new growth. We shed our old skin and emerge anew.
We all deserve a second chance. Give yourself that.
Get Out Of Victim Mode
You are sabotaging yourself when you are stuck in victim mode. Which in turn means sacrificing positive feelings and thoughts. In order to truly love yourself, you need to take responsibility for everything in your life.
This will take you to a higher vibration of thinking and living. You will be the master instead of the slave. Only then can we start to love ourselves completely. Otherwise we will be stuck in lower vibrating energies which suck out positivity. Along with refrain ourselves from exercising the ability to feel love for ourselves. And others for that matter.
Give Yourself Credit For What You Have Been Through
Simply giving yourself a high five or pat on the back. Literally and metaphorically speaking. When you truly give yourself credit for making it this far in this life, you feel proud of yourself. You feel a sense of pride that brings courage to move forward in a more loving and forgiving way towards yourself.
Take Time For You Every Day
You can’t love yourself if you are constantly worried about taking care of everyone else. I know we are all busy and have people relying on us. But that doesn’t mean we can’t make time for ourselves. We can and better yet, we MUST. In order to really be able to take care of everyone else, we need to take care of ourselves. The thing that looks selfish, self love, is actually self-less. As I said above, you can’t love someone else completely if you don’t love yourself.
So take time every single day to reflect on the positive things about yourself. About the good choices you made that day. How you can love yourself more. And what thoughts, emotions and people are getting in the way of you loving yourself completely.
If you need some self care ideas, I wrote an article about 61 self care ideas. Check it out!
Also the best thing to do with your time alone can be to do something that nourishes your spiritual side. Through things like meditation, being in nature as well as praying. You recharge through acts like these that allow you to feel more complete.
Will Smith talks about how self discipline is self love. If you love yourself, you make sacrifices for the greater good. The greater good being you feeling loving toward yourself. Sure it may be tough to turn down a pizza over a salad. But the tomorrow version of you will thank yourself for that choice. It is loving yourself enough to do the things you need to build a happy life for the long term. Bypassing the short term easy options. As lack of self discipline shows that you don’t care about yourself enough to give yourself the respect of being and living a disciplined life.
Adhere To Your Core Values
In order to love yourself and be true to yourself, you need to follow through on your core values. Live accordingly with the things about life your truly believe in. Things you stand for. Core values can be things like seeking financial stability, maintaining good health, building good personal relationships, being a leader, etc.
But when you live in accordance to your core values, you feel a sense of keeping the trains on the track. As if you are going in the right direction. When you violate them, you feel disappointed and depressed. You feel a sense of unease inside.
Creating a list of your core values is essential to living a more happy, abundant and fulfilling life. If you want to learn how to create yours and are looking for good core value examples, check out this post:
Heal Old Wounds
In order to feel loving about ourselves, we need to let go of old wounds. Heal them so that we can move on and live life without the heavy feelings of these old wounds. Find someone you trust to share old wounds with. What you went through and experienced. But then move on from them as fast and as best as possible. Wallowing in them will only cause you to cut off your loving nature and the ability to love yourself.
See your old wounds as things that strengthened you. It is like a scar. It may not look the prettiest when looking at it. But what we actually have is a stronger layer of skin. That is what a scar is. The same holds true about a broken bone. It brings about terrible and excruciating pain.
But when it is healed, the spot at the break is actually stronger. A layer of bone has been laid that has a stronger hold then the original bone.
Life has a way of coming back stronger when we let it. When we heal, we heal stronger. This is true with emotional wounds as well if we choose to see them in this type of light.
See them as the things that made you strong enough to survive and thrive in life. When you seem them as this, they start to look like blessings instead of wounds.
If you need help learning how to let go of them permanently, check out this article I wrote on how to do so:
Stop Seeking Perfection
In a way we are seeking perfection to get the approval of someone in our lives like our parents or some authority figure. To prove that we are enough. Or even to prove to yourself that you are enough.
But this only gets in the way of loving ourselves. When we stop seeking perfection and instead seek for a life of IMPROVEMENT, we can learn and grow each day. We stop putting the world on our shoulders and seeking the impossible.
This burden is lifted, giving us more energy to love ourselves more.
Stop Thinking About What You Lack
Often times we focus all of our energy on what we lack. Who we aren’t. What we need to become. What we aren’t good at. Instead focus your energy on all the things that you are good at. The things that make you you. The things that you are gifted at. How you bring value to the world. Dwell on the good more and more.
No one has every single talent or ability. No one is the complete package. I mean even the best pro baseball player most likely sucks at what you are great at. Just because you aren’t celebrated publicly or paid millions of dollars for what you are good at, doesn’t mean that you aren’t a person of value.
You are very valuable. Just think about all the ways you contribute to society and your family. Seek out the value you bring into this existence so that you can see them and internalize this value.
Also realize that since you created this false expectation, that you can take it away. We may want to fulfill something we think we lack in order to gain someone’s approval. But you are the one that created this whole scenario. That means you have the power to destroy it. The power to decide that your are happy with yourself regardless.
When you think about your quirks that you are embarrassed of, love them instead. Do exactly the opposite of what your mind has conditioned you to do. Love and embrace them. After all they make you unique. Who they hell wants to be the same as everyone else? Embrace YOU.
Do What You Love To Do
In order to be happy, you need to be doing something everyday that you love to do. We all have something that our souls long to do. That they yearn for. That when we do them, we feel at peace. Time even fades away and we are left with feelings of bliss.
Do that more in your life. The more you do so, the more you will be happy. They happier you are, the more loving you are. The two go hand in hand.
Abandon Unloving People and Embracing Loving Ones
There are people in our present lives and past that we don’t need in our lives. They can even affect us, often times more, when they aren’t physically present. These people need to be plucked out of your life if you want to be happy and love yourself.
It can be letting go of people from your past. Or not hanging out with people that affect your mood. People that don’t have your best interest in mind. They aren’t worth being in your life. They don’t deserve a place in it.
You know the people. The ones that secretly don’t want you to succeed. Or want you to stay wallowing in drama and victomhood with them. The people that aren’t progressive. The people that simply aren’t loving.
The longer we stay around these people, the worse we feel about ourselves. By freeing ourselves up from these anchors, we regain the ability to love ourselves. And to express love.
Instead hang around with people that support you and want you to win. Get the nay sayers out of your life. Follow positive blogs. Read positive books. Listen to empowering podcasts. Surround yourself with uplifting material and people. You will feel better about yourself, hence loving yourself more and more.
It will be a cumulative effect to where one day you will wake up and feel the value you have in yourself. The value you have to bring to the world. As well as the little if any drama and unloving people in your life that you will allow to stick around. You will transform yourself from within. Like the moth that becomes a beautiful butterfly.
Stop trying to seek the love of those from your past that choose not to love you anymore. They aren’t worth your time and energy. And it is taking away energy that you need to focus on finding and nurturing relationships with people who love you for who you are.
Face The Man (Woman) In The Mirror
One of the hardest and most awkward things to do is look at yourself in the mirror for a long amount of time. It is a great exercise though to learn how to love yourself again. It is one of the greatest exercises we can do to practice self love and we can do it each day.
Simply look in the mirror each morning for a minute. Look yourself in the eye and tell yourself some of the following things:
- I am beautiful/handsome
- I am creative
- I love myself
- I embrace my flaws
- I love my imperfections
- I deserve the best
- I look and feel great
- I respect myself
- I am a strong person
- I am my own hero
- I am a great leader
- I am a great (mother, daughter, son, husband, dad, etc)
- I truly care about myself
- I am grateful for myself
- I believe in myself
I don’t care how lame this may seem. It is powerful. If you do this for 30 days, your life will never be the same. You will feel much better about yourself. As you will be reinforcing these new beliefs through these positive affirmations.
They will work themselves into your subconscious mind. And you will start to operate off of them at a subconscious level. Feeling great about yourself naturally.
Don’t Judge Others
Buddha had an awesome quote that helped be make this point:
“Don’t judge others. Do not make assumptions about others. A person is destroyed by holding judgments about others.”
You literally destroy your inner world when you are being judgmental. It is truly just a mere reflection of how you feel about yourself. So by not judging others, you are choosing to rise above your negative side and instead reveal your positive and loving side.
Love Yourself Quotes (SElf Love Quotes)
“What if you simply devoted this year to loving yourself more?”
Loving yourself isn’t vanity, it’s sanity.” – Andre Gide
“Loving yourself starts with liking yourself, which starts with respecting yourself, which starts with thinking of yourself in positive ways.” – Jerky Corsten
“You have to love yourself because no amount of love from others is sufficient to fill the yearning that your soul requires of you.” – Dodinsky
“Work on being in love with the person in the mirror who has been through so much but is still standing.”
“Falling in love with yourself first doesn’t make you vain or selfish, it makes you indestructible.”
“Love yourself so much that when someone treats you wrong you recognize it.” – Rena Rose
“Self love is the greatest middle finger of all time.”
“What if you simply devoted this year to loving yourself more?”
“Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives.” – Louise L. Hay
“Love yourself as much as you want to be loved.”
“Fall in love with taking care of yourself. Mind, body and spirit.”
“Make yourself a priority once in a while. It’s not selfish, it’s necessary.”
“To love yourself is to understand that you don’t need to be perfect to be good.”
“Do not tolerate disrespect, not even from yourself.”
“Stop hating yourself for everything that you aren’t and start loving yourself for everything you already are.”
“Falling in love with yourself first doesn’t make you vain or selfish. It makes you indestructible.”
“Love yourself and be proud of everything you do. Even your mistakes because your mistakes mean you’re trying.”
“Love yourself first so you know what you deserve.”
“The more you love yourself, the less nonsense you tolerate.”
“Nobody can make you happy until you’re happy with yourself first.”
“Love yourself, forgive yourself. Be true to yourself. How you treat yourself sets the standard for how others will treat you” – Steve Maraboli
“Hey you. Yes you, stop being unhappy with yourself. You are perfect. Stop wishing you looked like someone else or wishing people liked you as much as they liked someone else. Stop trying to get attention from those who hurt you. Stop hating your body, your face, your personality, your quirks. Love them. Without those things, you wouldn’t be you. And why would you want to be anyone else. Be confident with who you are. Smile. It’ll draw people in. If anyone hates on you because you are happy with yourself, then you stick your middle finger in the air and say screw it. My happiness will not depend on others anyone. I’m happy because I love who I am. I love my flaws. I love my imperfections. They make me me. And ‘me’ is pretty amazing.”
“It’s not your job to like me, it’s mine.”
“I am not beautiful like you, I am beautiful like me.”
“Learn to love yourself enough so that when someone enters your life that treats you negatively, you can stand up for yourself and have the strength to let them go. You can learn that it is OK to say no to anyone who is not willing to treat you with the love and respect you not only want, but also deserve. Have the courage to walk away from anything that does not serve you well. Search for your highest good.”
“Self love is a school. It’s where you learn every inch about yourself and decide to accept you for you. It’s this schooling that prepares you to recognize true love when it appears.”