Dying To Yourself (Old Self)
One must die in order to live. What?
In a sense, a good part of the population are walking corpses. No identity other than the one what we have picked up from what society tells us we should be.
We buy into the lies that we need to be a certain way because of the way we look or the color of our skin, or the heritage and places we hail from.
All simply programs running that cover up our true identity.
So when I say dying to yourself, I mean dying to the you (and me) that we have created in order to meet in a manner that we think it wants us to meet it as.
Once this happens, or begins to happen, there is a flow to the world for us.
We no longer case as much, or at all what people think about us. Fear is in a sense, diminished as we no longer are attached to outcomes.
A childlike essence manifests itself as we are now able to live from a more true vantage point, more congruent with our true essence. The one we we born with and simply covered up.
So dying to yourself means that you are killing off any part that we “thought” was the self. The real self. That ended up just being the mask we wore.
From this point, we can really relate to the quote from Fight Club:
“It is only after you’ve lost everything, that you are free to do anything.” – Tyler Durden
This freedom, comes after we “lose” what we aren’t. And gain back our true identity.
But how do we do this?
I am glad you asked.
Here are some tips I can offer you that can help you die to your old self, force a dark night of the soul. And emerge from it in an entirely new light.
4 Tips For Transformation
Be OK With Not Being Understood
We all have an addiction to being accepted, being popular, going with the grain. And yet, we are sheep in this manner. And where are sheep led? To slaughter. Or they walk right off the side of a mountain together. One after another.
This is a metaphor for the spiritual death we lead ourselves to when we are not leading our lives. Doing what is congruent to our souls. And living a life on our own terms.
So in order to die to yourself, you and I need to be saying what we mean and meaning what we say. Let go of the primal need to be accepted by the group.
This spans back to where we lived in caves. And if we did anything bad, we would be kicked out of the cave and made to survive out in the wild. Where death was pretty much certain, being alone.
Nowadays, that isn’t the case anymore. If we get kicked out of the group, we can still go home to our safe haven. We can find another group. Or we can simply be completely safe and survive, as well as thrive alone.
So dying to ourselves simply means living a life on our own souls terms. You and I know deep down what we want to do in our lives. What we want to do for work, pleasure, who we want to date. How we want to present ourselves to the world.
Sure you are going to meet resistance, when you venture into the realm of the unknown. When you take a job that your family didn’t want you to take. When you choose a political party that isn’t congruent with “your” beliefs. When you date someone that may not be “right” for you when it comes to the “type” people think you should be with.
F*** em! We begin living, when we get to this level. When we become Hootless. When we no longer give a hoot! This is dying to ourselves, so we can rise beautifully out of our own ashes.
We know the people we shouldn’t be hanging out with. Some people are just not meant to exist in our new world.
They may have served a purpose before. And yet, there are people to whom are anchors to use. That we need to cut links with if we are going to go to the next level.
And by all means, I am not saying that we are perfect, maybe we are an anchor to them too.
But who is a person in your life that you know is more so pissing on your fire, instead of adding fuel to it?
Cut them off. Lets commit together, right now, to do so. That they just have to go, most likely completely. In order for us to breakaway from bad habits that are keeping us down. And adopt good habits because we are no longer under the influence of a toxic relationship.
Get Rid of ONE Bad Habit
There is an awesome book called the One Thing. It is written by Gary Keller whom owns Keller Williams Real Estate.
He talks about we can always trace our day back to ONE thing that can make the entire difference in our day, week, month or even life.
That we can keep chipping away at things until we eliminate everything but one thing. Then we commit a certain amount of time to doing just that FIRST.
If we do that first, then everything else either becomes a lot less important or totally irrelevant.
What is the ONE bad habit that you and I can give up that can make all the difference in our world?
Maybe for you, it is giving up alcohol because if you do so, not only will you be more effective at work, but you will also have enough energy to hit the gym everyday. And because you feel better, you will treat your wife and kids better.
For me, I have to give up dabbling with pharmaceuticals. I would taking them sporadically to get away from my thoughts and darkness.
And yet, it will catch up at some point.
We must go through things to grow through them. The more we resist, the more it persists.
Thus is life.
So in order to obliterate our ONE bad habit, we need to bring the most pure form of our own vibration to it.
We need to take a stand. Use the power of disgust. Get so disgusted with our old toxic habit, that we commit to never going back to it. Ever again.
Let me know in the comment section below, what habit you are committing to give up.
And don’t look at it as giving up, look at it this way:
“From now on I refuse to give up, the only thing I ever gave up is using.” – Eminem
Giving up this bad habit, is going to make you and I so much more powerful. We are giving up to gain is what we are really doing.
So today, lets take a stand together and threaten our bad habit, with the wholehearted commitment to never go back to it, ever again.
This will have us die to a big part of ourselves, in a big way!
Slowly but surely, we will meet the world with a new energy and vigor. And be vibrating at a higher consciousness. Which will help us give up other bad habits because we are born anew and more powerful.
Pain is part of the process of life. The things that suck the most end up bringing us the most gratification and satisfaction.
So in order to die to ourselves, we need to cut away a lot of fear we have. And the only way to do so is to meet fear with a higher intensity than it meets us.
So when we are scared to do something, how do we meet that fear with a higher vibration than the fear itself?
So lets say we are scared to ask someone out. WE go to worse case scenarios right away. And because we allow those thoughts to creep into our mind, we don’t take action. And then we feel bad about ourselves because we didn’t take action.
We either put it off for another day, that we know realistically, may never come. Or we decide to give up on conquering that fear.
My friend. We only live this life once.
No matter what happens with our fears, our life will be over soon anyways. So if we make a big flop of ourselves through acting upon our fear.
Well first off, because we acted, we showed ourselves that we can overcome other fears. So we will meet other, even bigger fears with more courage.
We will also realize that it wasn’t as bad as we thought it was going to be.
Most people do not act upon their fears. So we can die to our old self very quickly if we start facing fears we have.
Face them, right on the spot.
Lets commit to each other today. That you and I, next time we meet a fear, we will punish it with fast action.
It is said, that if we don’t act within 5 seconds, we will most likely not act. As the fear will win. It will start to look, feel and act bigger than it is. This front makes us stall and ultimately probably not act.
So you and I , today, will start to act on our fears with speed so fast it’ll make fears head spin.
Conclusion To Dying To Yourself
So that is it today my friends. 4 quick tips on how to die to your old sef and emerge anew. Refreshed, and better than ever.
As our bada** self is residing underneath our old skin right now.
It is time to shed that skin and show the world what we are really made of.
I hope you enjoyed the article.
Let me know your advice about the topic below. I really look forward to hearing your perspectives on the subject.
Also, let me know what fear you are most excited to transcend and overcome in the comment section below!