How To Become The Leader of Your Own Life
What does it take to become a leader? How do we become the leader of our own lives? What would it look like, sound like and feel like?
To me, I believe that leadership over ones life, is simply to live life on our own terms. We don’t answer to anyone or do anything that we don’t feel is congruent with our higher purpose.
So when it comes to what is a leader, and what is leadership, this is what I believe. I could be wrong, but I really believe that leadership is leading our own life only, and if people follow, thats great.
But then again, leadership, in my opinion is taking the bull by your horns in your own life.
Staying in your own lane, and milking your full potential because of the fact that we are soley focused on ourselves. Not anyone else.
This gives us a lot of thought power. As when we are to external with our thought process, our mind is consumed by thoughts of others.
It simply comes down to this. Most of these thoughts about others have lack in them. We don’t want them to get ahead. We don’t want them to beat us or make it before us.
So instead, when we are only focused on growing and expanding and become more ourselves, our thoughts can experience less clutter. And the quieter our mind is, the more powerful our thoughts our.
It is like taking a magnifying glass as honing it in so powerful, it can burn something. That is how powerful a quiet mind with a positive thought is.
Of course, this can take a lot of work and essentially it is lifelong process.
So before we move forward, you and I need to commit to the lifelong process. Otherwise, we need to stop reading right here.
Because life is evolution if you take part in it. We are either growing or dying. You can sit still. Like a shark, if it stops moving forward it can die.
I see us like that. We are the super breed, the hybrid animal, the ruler of the kingdom we occupy.
We just need to keep moving forward as fast as possible to reach and fulfill our full potential and it will take a daily grind.
So, thats all nice and dandy right? But how do we truly become the leader of our own lives? Well, let me offer you a few suggestions that have helped me become a better leader of my own existence.
Turn the News OFF
Let me ask you a question, and be honest with me, how many times can you remember where the news displayed something positive?
I bet I can count it on one had if I reflect and really think about it. And they stand out so much because of the fact that it NEVER happens.
If you and I are going to become the leaders of our own life, we need to simply turn off the news.
Look, I understand that we all have to make a living. Unfortunately, the way I see it, the news job is to keep us in fear. Because fear is profitable.
It also, keeps us from evolving. Our level of consciousness never reaches it’s peak. And at worse, it actually digresses from the level at which we arrived at this earth at.
The scary part about it, is that most of the time when we watch TV, our mind is tired. We use it as an outlet to decompress and relax. We aren’t focused enough to put rationality to what we are seeing.
Or decipher what we believe to be true or not. It is all just accepted as fact.
So, today, I am encouraging you to turn off the news. And turn on a positive Youtube channel from the likes of my family like Tom Bileyu, Tony Robbins, Mel Robbins, Brene Brown, Lisa Nichols and Eric Thomas.
Of course, you can always just jump onto my blog anytime, I promise that there is only positive content on here 🙂
Also, read good books. Here are a few that I know that can help you:
The fact of the matter is, if we are not dictating what goes into our mind, we fall victim to whatever the other person/channel/avenue wants us to believe as truth.
So whenever you are tempted to watch the news, default back to positivity.
Become Self Employed
With the world we live in, it is easier to make at least part time if not full time money from our passions and being self employed.
The internet changed the game. And we have apps like Instacart and Uber where you can be self employed in a matter of minutes!
And, I am the type of person that was raised by a mother, who I love dearly, of whom thought the path to happiness and fulfillment was through full time corporate world work for me.
Of course, this is not a bad path at all, and yet I found myself through self employment.
I am not saying you have to do it as the only income stream(s) you have. And yet I highly suggest that you do a side hustle that makes you money either in your passion, and/or something like Instacart, Door Dash or Uber.
It gives you the ultimate feeling of taking the reigns in your life.
And also, if you are like me, there is an excitement in not having a stream of income guaranteed. As usually you can make more money than you could with guaranteed money. And it is exciting because of the fact that every day is different!
It Must be A MUST
Look, if we go out to lead our own lives and become a person known as a leader, we need to commit to it FULLY. No half a** stuff here.
When it should be done, we will do what is convenient. When we MUST do it, it becomes a do what ever it takes type of thing.
If we look back at our lives, the only time we made it doing something, is when it became a must. An obsession.
Maybe it was someone you wanted to court to marry. Or a job you really wanted. Or to reach a certain income level.
It was like we cut off all other options to the contrary. We locked in, and committed.
Walk The Unpopular Path
Leadership means taking a stand in our lives. It is often times saying NO when we are afraid to say it. It is speaking your mind and your truth.
I can also be holding back when we want to get even.
It is doing things in a way to where you aren’t walking the way most people are walking.
Leadership is about becoming that black sheep in a sense. As most people, sorry to say it, are followers.
Not you and I though. Not even for one second.
A leader doesn’t want to be someones friend over telling someone what they want and need to hear.
They also keep their internal dialogue congruent with authenticity with themselves.
People who lead their own lives tell themselves what they need to hear, not what they want to hear.
If they are slacking in certain areas, there is no sugarcoating.
Leaders look themselves dead in the eye and tell it how it is, back to themselves.
They tell the truth to themselves and others. They aren’t worried about what the outcome will be from telling people the truth.
As they know, that this is real authentic love for themselves and the people they are speaking to. Anyone can lie to make a friend, it takes a true friend and a noble human being to say what is real.
Don’t Hold Grudges
For us to be leaders, we need to be progressive people. And we cannot be so, if we are constantly looking back to the past.
Live and let live.
We can’t be weighed down by the past if we want to lead our own lives. We need to be as light as possible in order to maneuver our way powerfully through this life.
To lead our own lives and the people that come with us, to the promised land.
Use Time Wisely
There is a beautiful quote, that I think sums this point up nicely:
“If you love life, don’t waste time, for time is what life is made of.” – Bruce Lee
Leaders know that the clock is running out. There is so much time. So with that time, you and I can be making money, investing wisely, learning new skills.
If we do all these things, we will be getting more done, feel better about our lives and feel the sense of satisfaction that comes from progress. We can spend time with families, get fit and eat good, and engage in our hobbies.
We will also be limiting the amount of regrets we have at the end of each day as well at the end of our lives.
If we want to lead, we need to see time as currency and use it very wisely on things that will create a better us and a better environment around us.
This is the last part to our story today, and yet for sure the most important.
It is said in the good book, that without vision, the people parish.
Leaders know where they are going, and we can do the same if we have a vision for our lives.
We should have a big vision with many smaller visions.
And yet they should be so powerful that they pull us towards a better future. Otherwise, we can be inclined to look back to much when there were “better” times. Never moving forward at a rate that is required for leadership.
Here are a couple posts that I think can help you create bigger visions for your life: