How To Feel Better About Yourself
- 1 How To Feel Better About Yourself
When it comes to how to feel better about yourself, the first place we need to look is in ourselves. If we don’t have hope, there is a reason. If you are feeling lack, that is a good thing.
I want you to give yourself some credit. As you are feeling like something is lacking. And you are searching for answers. Seek and you shall find!
It is very bold of you and I to look for answers. Instead of suppressing and denying the feeling that something is missing in our lives.
Truly, this is courage at it’s best form my friend.
We have hit rock bottom, or something close to hit when we are searching for how to feel better about ourselves.
And we can only change when we realize that we have gone in the wrong direction.
Maybe we pursued a path that we though would bring us more hope and self approval. And we got to the end of the path and realized, the pot of gold was at the other side of the rainbow.
I know I’ve been here, have you?
So today, let’s look at ways on how to feel better about yourself more. So you andI can fill that void, and truly enjoy life more and more. Each and every day. Leaving us fulfilled and satisfied.
Feeling that this is a life well lived.
How To Feel More Confident About Yourself (55 Tips)
Seek Answers Within First
The first note I want to bring to you is that in order to feel hope, the first place we need to look is inside ourselves.
We feel lack INSIDE, so it only make sense to look there. As looking outside for our hope has brought you and I a lot of pain.
Where there is something missing inside, we must have the courage to ask WHY?
Right now, what do you feel is creating that lack of hope? This could be the only answer you need.
Don’t think to hard. Whatever comes up, roll with it. Because usually the fastest answer is your intuition speaking to you. And it will be loudest at first shot. Because if we doubt that first voice that comes up, it will dull out the pitch of how loud our intuition can be.
Also, when we don’t listen to it, this act alone makes it harder to listen to intuition and hear it. Because it will realize that you don’t want to pay attention to it. Who wants to help you when you aren’t paying attention to them??
As you identify something inside you that you feel is creating the feeling of having no hope, write it down.
Then list out 3 action steps that you can take TODAY and LONG TERM.
So let’s say your lack of hope is coming up about not being in a relationship or finding the right one.
Well maybe you need to:
- Get on 5 dating apps with professional pictures.
- Go to more social places that your age group goes to.
- Break out of your comfort zone and ask someone out the minute you feel attraction or connection.
- Study pickup.
- Read books on communication and self help books to make you feel better about yourself.
Read or Listen To Something Positive Daily
ZIg Ziglar once stated:
“Motivation doesn’t last but neither does bathing!”
It is one thing to listen to positive things sparingly. But it is another to let it consistently drip into your life.
Here is a good place to start to get you fired up about your life:
Do Work You Enjoy (Self-Employment)
The fact of the matter is that if we aren’t doing something we enjoy, that is at least 5 days out of the week we aren’t looking forward to. Right?
If we keep going down this road, we naturally will not feel good about our life. Which will do nothing to make you feel better about yourself.
So the first thing you need to do is really think about what sets you on fire in this life.
When you are doing things you enjoy in this life, there is a natural energy that comes out, deep from within you.
You feel more alive. You look more alive. And you have way more natural energy. With these 3 things in play for you, you naturally start to feel better about yourself. Because you DO feel better.
In order for you to feel good about yourself, it is imperative that you monitor your health and fitness.
That you are engaging in physical activity at least 3 times per week. Especially strength training. As there is a confidence that comes from reshaping your body.
When you look better, you naturally feel better. And when you feel better you want to see how much better you can actually feel. That is when you really start gaining momentum and feeling more more secure with yourself.
Eating good foods will also make your body and mind feel better. You will think sharper. Feel more energized.
And when you and I feel more energy coursing through us, it is hard not to feel better about ourselves. As it is the opposite of feeling sluggish.
If this seems like a struggle to you to adhere to fitness and eating good, do me a favor. Stick with it for 30 days. Tough it out.
When you feel like you want to give in and go off the diet plan, stick with the feeling for 10 minutes. This is how long it will take for this feeling to pass.
I guarantee you that you will truly never look back after adopting this lifestyle for 30 days. And your self esteem will skyrocket.
If you can do it for 90 days, it will be engrained into your new personality. Your new self will be deeply enforced by outside recognition. Which will make you even more likely to continue this lifestyle of health and fitness.
Lastly, lets call a spade a spade. Getting positive feedback makes you and I feel great! And there is nothing wrong with positive reinforcement from outside sources if it is coming from a positive lifestyle change we have made.
The feeling entrepreneurship has brought me as surpassed pretty much all professional happiness I have ever experienced.
You can have this too. As it gives you a feeling of having control over your life.
Even if you are working for yourself for 10 hours a week. Like driving Instacart or ghost writing articles for money.
It will allow you to feel like the master of your fate. Like you are the one driving the bus, not just another passenger.
It will make you feel great about yourself. I promise this.
And who knows? One day, it make become your full time income generator.
Plus, once you take on one project, you start seeing the world differently. You think more creatively. And you start thinking like an entrepreneur. You start attracting more money generating things. And attract people who are entrepreneurs.
It will create high levels of self esteem in you. You will know that you are building your own wealth, instead of wealth for someone else. And giving back to people at the same time, as you will be either offering goods that change peoples life or services that do.
Which leads us into our next tip.
Reflect on Past Wins
Show yourself that you are awesome. Reflect on past wins. Go as far back as you can remember. Show yourself that you have done some pretty great stuff in this life.
Here is a challenge for you and I. Let’s make a list of 100 accomplishments we have done in this life. This will make you feel better about yourself instantly and permanently!
Giving back can bring you more happiness and fulfillment than anything in this life.
It feels awesome to receive in this life. But it feels ten times better when you and I give to a receiver.
It lets us tap into our true nature. Which is unconditional love.
And you cannot feel insecure when your attention is on someone else. It creates all the feel good synapses in the brain too. Leaving us in a state of euphoria.
Have One Goal Per Day You Hit
We need to gain momentum when we are feeling bad about ourselves. And that fact of the matter is, that humans are goal seeking animals. We are not happy when we have nothing to shoot for.
Each day, set at least one challenging but achievable goal. And don’t go to sleep until either you accomplish that goal, or you can say you honestly gave it everything you had that day trying to achieve it.
Also, set short and long term goals in your life. You want to have a vision of the future pull your strongly. To where you are so excited about your future, you never even look back towards your past.
When you have strong and meaningful goals, you stop being a wandering generality. You enter into the world of being a meaningful specific.
When this happens, you feel purpose. And with purpose comes a feeling of power and knowingness.
Most of the population does not set goals. When you and I do, we set ourselves apart from the crowd.
Personally, I know when I started setting goals and envisioning my goals coming true, I vibrated at a different frequency. To where I saw the world different.
It was as if most people were asleep, and I was finally awakened. And when you awaken from a sleeping state, you feel much better about yourself.
Write A Love Letter To Yourself
This is the ultimate displaying of having your own back. Tell yourself how great you are, how much you love yourself, how much you accept yourself for all that you have done and been through.
Truly forgive yourself during this letter. Write it straight from the heart.
When it comes to how to feel better about yourself, a great way to to so is to show yourself that you care about you.
We have all inflicted self neglect to ourselves over the years. In one way or another. You and I need to start showing ourselves that we have our own backs. That it is cool to be cool with ourselves.
We are essentially starting the process of becoming fans of ourselves. And when we start to cheer for ourselves, be feel better about our life.
Resource: 61 Self Care Ideas
Become A Minimalist
Desire is a never ending cycle of pain and pleasure, but mostly pain. We want more and more until we feel like we lack more and more.
We get something, and then instantly we are provoked to move onto the next thing. Only temporary satisfied. Which we then create another artificial lack by desiring something bigger and better.
Prioritize your wants. Keep them within reason. Of course shoot for the moon. But be OK with not having it all. If it happens great, if not that is great too.
The key is to start letting go of desire. Which is the root of all pain. Cut out the root, and you feel less suffering. Less suffering means feeling better about yourself.
Don’t feel the need to keep up with the Jonses. It is a losing battle. Because even if you do, it may not be all that it seems to be. And you will lose your identity in the process. And when you don’t know who you are, you can feel confident about yourself.
Put Your Fears To Bed
We all have fears, it is only normal. I mean our main goal is security. And anything that goes against this inherent need is going to bring discomfort. But at the end of the day, the only way to get rid of a fear is to face it head on.
When we do this, we cut out fear a bit. Not only are we less scared of the thing we used to be afraid of. But everything affects everything in this life.
So when we face one fear, we are less fearful when it comes to every single other fear we have.
Don’t believe me? Simply face one of your fears starting today, and you will believe me afterwards!
Pick one fear this week that you can work on overcoming. Hit it as hard as you can. And watch your life transform. And your levels of self esteem rise.
See Failure As Feedback
When we look at our failures, it is easy to feel bad about ourselves. But when we see it as a stepping stone and learning from it, we can feel better about ourselves instantly.
As we stop seeing ourselves as a failure. We simply see ourselves as someone who made the wrong choice. Plain and simple. A failure doesn’t define you. Make it a teacher not an undertaker.
You and you alone decide how you view failure. Since you and I have this power, let’s commit to seeing it as a lesson to learn. We will do better next time. Because now we no better. Simple as that.
Stick Up For Yourself
No one has the right to tell you how to feel or to talk down to you. There are still adult bullies in this life who have never grown up from those high school days!
Tell people to not talk to you a certain way. Let people know you will not be walked all over.
When you do this, you are showing yourself that you care enough about you to stand up for you.
You are becoming your own savior. And displaying that you will not stand for anything but respect.
Also, give out the same respect too.
Let’s face it, when you have a new haircut and have some quality clothes on our body, you naturally tend to feel so much better about yourself.
Let’s commit to upgrading our look. Even just a little bit. A little sharper. A little more groomed. Do the little things. They add up quick!
Get a haircut every month. Same day, same time.
Upgrade your wardrobe to wear you are dressing a step above the people you are usually around, both personally and professionally. It can add an air of superiority that you earn, because you are being more intentional about the way you dress.
Use Music As Your Vice
Music can change and transform our lives. It can make us weep, laugh, feel sad, feel angry and feel empowered.
Put some classical music on and chill out. Or turn up some music that makes you feel pumped up and energetic. These two states can allow us to fully process feeling bad about ourselves. And allow us to transcend these feels. Moving to a better place.
Pet An Animal
If you have one, go love up on your own. If you don’t, hit an animal shelter and just play with the animals. Feed them and love them.
They also know how to listen well. Feel free to tell them anything and everything. Because as good of listeners as they are, the are even better at keeping secrets.
When we are constantly frowning or pursing our lips, our mind will feel the same way. Our face really reflects our internal environment.
So when you are feeling bad about yourself, just smile and laugh.
Take life less serious. Laugh at things you used to get made at.
Smile at random people. It will make you feel better and maybe freak them out LOL. But it will give you even more chuckles!
Know You Are Right Where You Need To Be
We all have that tugging feeling that we need to be THERE. We forget about being in the here and now.
Which can be sad because we are here, right where we are. And we can choose to accept it, or always be living for a future that may never come.
Or it may! Either way, it is good to simply accept where you are right now.
The fact of the matter is, that all of the choices we have made up to this point has brought us the life that we have.
And if you and I are unhappy with where we are in life, that is great! Why the heck would I say this? Because if we are unhappy with our lives, we can make new choices that can bring us more happiness.
You can’t change your destination overnight, but you and I can change our direction. And that starts with just simply being cool with the fact that where we are is perfectly OK.
Act Like You Already Do Feel Great About Yourself
What would you feel like if you did feel great about yourself? Feel those feelings now. And just know that beauty of this is that you can feel these feelings ANYTIME. You can put them on like a shirt.
Simple commit to feeling this feeling of complete content, whenever you feel discontent.
Use mental imagery with it as well. If you need help with that, check out this article I wrote just for you.
Resource: How To Visualize (Anything You Want)
Once you start visualizing what you want, your mind will be programmed to start seeking people, experiences and things that will align yourself with the life that you want. Visualization is very powerful.
Quieting the monkey mind is so crucial to feeling better about life. I know that this has been a game changer for me. And I know it can be the same for you.
Our biggest problem/challenge is the mind. Either happiness originates from there or misery. And it all comes down to our thoughts.
We can clear our minds for a bit with mediation. Quiet down the negative thoughts. Letting us feel more calm and peaceful.
If nothing else, your body will feel more at peace. Which will make you feel better in your own skin.
We have all had a coach or someone like a coach in our lives. That came along and said just the right things to get us out of the slump.
What if you were the only person left on the earth? No one to save you. What would you say to you that would help you feel better about yourself?
Create positive internal dialogue with yourself.
I suggest doing it in the morning. As your mind is still sleepy, and willing to accept what it is fed. Versus being more closed off and ego-driven after being awake for a while.
It will help you program your day for positivity and good vibes.
Realize Someone Always Has It Worse
When it comes down to it, we can start to feel pretty bad about ourselves. Like we are the only ones dealing with anything like this!
And yet the fact of the matter is, others have much lower self esteem than you do. For whatever reason, knowing ople have it worse can give you some perspective. And not make you feel alone.
Which when we feel alone in our problems, the feel personal. And when they feel personal, their intensity is greater.
When we cut off that intensity by realizing other people are going through things too, we dull the feeling and start to feel better in our own skin.
Have Your Best Friend Tell You Why They Love You
Often times, we just need a little pick up. When we are having trouble seeing our own worth, a friend can come in clutch.
Ask them why they remain so close with you. What their favorite quality is about you. Whey they love you so much.
When we see ourselves through someone else’s eyes, in a positive way, we can really see how valuable we are.
Do the same thing to them. Tell them why you love them so much. It can help you grow your relationship with them. As well as really feel better in general as you are giving love, and what you give out must come back!
Talk About Your Struggles With Others
This can give you and I a great chance to connect with the people in our life. But the main thing it will do is to show you that REAL people have struggles.
We see magazine and social media feeds all day of celebrities and follwers living the perfect lives.
This can really skew our perspective on reality and how the real world works.
We all have been, are going through our about to be knee deep in a struggle. This is just how life is.
If it isn’t one thing, it’s another!
Get someone that you feel safe enough with, chatting about your struggles. Not only will it help you let it go, but it will also help you realize that you are not the only one struggling.
Like I mentioned to you briefly above, what you give out in the universe, must come back. When you give out hate, it will come back. Maybe not to the person you are hating but from another source.
The same is true with any feeling. So when you are out and about, bless people you walk by. Wish the best for them. Hope that they achieve every goal and dream they ever had their heart on.
When you do this, you are giving out strongly positive vibrations. This can raise you out of a negative spot and let you feel better about yourself.
And naturally, what you give out, must come back. You will notice the world transform before your eyes.
As Wayne Dyer said:
“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”
Learn to Say No More
When we say yes to everything, you instantly are spreading yourself too thin. You and I need to get to a place where we don’t care what people think.
If someone asks us to do something, and we don’t want to do it, you and I need to be saying no.
It not only makes us feel like we are in more control over our lives, it also opens up time to focus and grow ourselves.
If we are always trying to please everybody, we value their self worth more than ours. Show the world that you are in control. Say no to everything you have to say no to.
And then whenever you say yes to something, it will be aligned with your needs and desires. Letting you feel great while you are participating.
Hang With A Better Group
We all become the average of our closest friends. It is a strange pattern that the universe follows.
If you are not feeling great about yourself, you may need to look at your group. Are they uplifting you? Or are they putting you down?
Or maybe they are just stagnant. They don’t necessarily do either. But none of you are pushing each other to grow.
If this is the case, it is time to find a new group that does. Where all of you can bring each other up when you are down. And ever higher up when you are up.
Be True To Your Word
When we are aligned with our word, we become people of integrity. There is no deviation between us and our internal ego.
When we say we are going to do something, we do it. Plain and simple. You feel rock solid as you KNOW you will follow through. People will KNOW they can rely on you.
When you become this type of person, you are staying true to your integrity and truth. It is a powerful feeling to have.
Reward Yourself Daily
Verbally tell yourself how good you did in ANY area of life. If we didn’t have a good day, there is still something we can glean upon that we did good.
Find it, however hard it may be.
Show yourself that you did make some progress. That you are not all bad. That you are doing your best. And literally pat yourself on the back.
This is part of you and I becoming our own cheerleaders.
Track Your Progress
If we aren’t tracking things, we can’t measure our progress or lack thereof.
If we do, we can really reflect on how much progress we have made over the course of weeks, months and the entire year.
Every night, simply track your day. Give yourself a score of 1-10 in the following areas:
- Personal Development
- Health and Wellness
Grade yourself without shaming yourself. If you did good, congratulate yourself with a good score. But also make notes on how you can do better the next day.
If you did bad in an area, that is perfectly OK. You are now aware of it and you will be more likely to create change in that area the next day. Take a couple notes on action steps you can take to do better the next day.
Treat Yourself To A Gourmet Meal
When we are feeling bad about ourselves, it is easy to stuff our feelings with junk food. But instead, let’s use this same need to lavishly treat ourselves with.
Go out and buy a nice steak, with some healthy steamed vegetables. Show yourself that you deserve the good things in this life.
Get a little red wine. Bring with you a self empowering book. Go alone. Read, eat and show yourself that you are valuable. You deserve the good things that life has to offer.
Don’t Take Anything Personally
I am talking about past things as well. When we take things personally, it is out ego getting involved too much.
Look back in the past at times you took things too personally. Realize that often times the actions that were taken to make us feel a certain way were acted out by someone dealing with their own insecurities. We all have them.
So we were only getting a reflection of what that person was going through and had been through up to that time. When someone pushes us to a point of taking things personally, they are showing us who they are. Not necessarily who we are.
Also, maybe it was you who need to change and transform and that is why you took it personal.
You knew there was truth in it. Accept that and take it as a favor the other person was doing for you. Reflecting something inside you that you need to change. And that is a win because you can use that for transformation.
Analyzed why you think you took it personal. That will reveal what you need to change and work on in your life.
Stocks, bonds, real estate. The fact of the matter is, when we know our money is working for us, we feel good about our futures.
And when you feel good about our futures, you naturally feel good about yourself.
Even if it is just a little bit. Start slow, and watch it build. Add more too savings and investments each month. It will make you feel very progressive.
Act Like You Are The Best Ever
Muhammad Ali would continuously tell himself how great he was. That he was the greatest!
And what ended up happening? He became the greatest. He became a champion of his chosen craft.
Tell yourself daily that you are the greatest. That you are meant for great things. That you deserve great things. Create positive mantras that you repeat to yourself daily.
Here is a list to help you with this:
Do Things When You Don’t Feel Like Doing Them
You can create grit in your life by acting when you don’t want to act. This will create excellent discipline in your life.
When you are constantly winning the battle with yourself, you feel better about yourself.
Lets both make it a point to do one thing per day that we really don’t want to do.
Write A Letter To Your Enemies And Burn It
The more we forgive, the less toxic we feel. When we let go of toxic emotions, we naturally start to feel better our ourselves.
Write a letter about EXACTLY how you feel about the people that have wronged you in your life. That have done you wrong. Or haven’t treated you in a way that you felt you should be treated.
Write it with all the emotion you can muster. Cry, get mad, get sad. Get through it. And then burn that sucker. And while it burns, allow yourself to truly let go of those toxic feelings for good.
Be True To Who You Are
The more we operate from a false persona, the more we feel bad about ourselves. Or we simply feel lost. As we don’t know who we really are anymore.
Let go of trying to be someone else. It is letting the world down, as they are getting a dumbed down version of you.
You are amazing just how you are. You are the best you that there will ever be!
Give yourself the freedom to feel amazing in your own skin.
Stop Doing Things Other People Want You To Do
We have all been told that we would be great at something in life. This comes from the opinion of someone we really admire and want to get approval from.
You and I need to not let these opinions infect our thinking. As often times we go after things in life that are not in alignment with what we really want to do.
The more we are going after the things we REALLY want in life, the better we feel about ourselves.
It gives us a powerful sense of meaning and purpose when we are living our truth.
Give Yourself Permission To Feel Bad
When we feel bad about ourselves, we focus on that. And what you focus on, expands. There is no doubt about this fact.
But in order to change, we need to stop resisting what we are trying to change. Give yourself complete freedom and permission to feel bad about yourself.
Give yourself a few minutes to absolutely immerse yourself in the feels. If you have to, sulk in your own sorrow.
What you are doing is truly embodying the experience.
Because when we are feeling bad about ourself, we are resisting the process. We bring things up then suppress them.
We need to get to a place of full expression so that we aren’t suppressing. This is a higher form of emotional processing.
Once we get here, then we can shift from letting these feelings go. You can’t let anything go if it isn’t experienced FULLY.
It is like moving through the stages of grief. You can process the feels and start to feel better about the process of feeling better about yourself. As you are leaving behind the thought patterns and feedback loops that beating yourself up brings about.
Experience it fully so that you can process it then move to higher ground.
Lets face it, how good did we feel as kids after punching or screaming into a pillow?? Lets be honest, we felt way better.
Expression, again is a great way to move on from toxic feelings.
So when it comes to how to feel better about yourself, lets revert back to kids. Simple and easy.
You can also get a punching bag and right hook that sucker. Or go to a shooting range and empty a clip to burn off steam.
Hitting baseballs works great for me. Maybe you can go hit baseballs or go to a driving range. We are physical animals. We can express it in a aggressive sense. Which is a higher vibrating energy than apathy and grief.
Go For A Drive
I don’t know why it works, but when I am feeling bad about myself or my life, I go for a drive.
I leave the music off. And simply reflect. I let myself feel the way I am going to feel as no one is there to judge me or see me.
I have cried, screamed, felt sad, felt betrayed. But I keep driving and don’t turn around until I have completely processed it.
I think it can work for you too.
Do NOTHING For One Day
If you are like me, you are or want to be an overachiever. You want the most out of life. You have set big goals and want all of them and more.
But we can get burned out if we keep burning the candle at both ends.
We are only human. And when we burn out, we don’t feel good physically. And when we don’t feel good physically, how are we supposed to feel good about ourselves?
Take one day and just literally do nothing at all. Take a bunch of naps. Watch some movies. Lay on the couch and reflect.
Do barely anything.
Recovery is so key to doing good things in this life and feel great about yourself.
Lay On The Grass And Watch The Clouds
I know for me, when I was a kid and was anxious or going through stuff, I would do this!
I had a mini grass hill in my front yard. And I would lie on it and just look up at the heavens. I would just watch the clouds drift by. And for whatever reason, felt a lot better.
I have noticed that I was a pretty smart kid when it came to knowing little ways to feel better about myself.
We all are!
Kids are intuitive and they don’t have enough pride built into their psyche to resist things that can really help them.
Lets act as kids and go lay in the grass and just be present with the passing clouds.
Let’s face it. We have all been in the club after a long week and felt like we were just NOT going to let ourselves cave into feeling happy and dancing around!
No way! Not after the week I had!
But then we start feeling the beat. Then we let out a little move. Then a few minutes later we are leading the whole crowd!
Simple dance to a good beat. Let go and don’t give a crap about your dance moves.
This isn’t an audition to dance backup for a start!
No one is watching. Just give in and move that body!
Stretching can move out the toxic buildup in your muscles. It can release tension, making you feel better inside your body.
It is also a form of mediation. Quieting your mind down and making you feel more calm.
Here is even more reasons to use stretching when you are feeling bad about yourself:
One of the best ways to feel better about yourself is to simply groom it up!
Get a haircut, cut the nails, shave your face or body for the ladies. Trim it up, dress it up!
Don’t Compare Yourself To Others
We all do it! But when you and I go about comparing ourselves to others, lets stop ourselves in our tracks.
Refrain from doing it, and instead think about how all paths have lead us all to different destinations.
Sure this person may have more schooling than you, but you may be a better brother/sister or son/daughter than them.
Another person may have better hair than you, but maybe you have a better physique or personality!
The fact of the matter is, just because one person appears to have ONE thing on you, doesn’t mean they have ALL things on you.
Let them have the win! Knowing that you are a winner yourself in domains that they are “losing” to you in.
We all have gifts bestowed upon us. The crucial fact of the matter is that we need to be reflecting on these gifts, otherwise they go unnoticed and unappreciated.
Hence missing our on feeling how much of a gift they really are!
Turn Your Worst Day Into Your Best Day
We all have one thing in our life that is unspeakable. It shaped a lot of who we are today. And unfortunately it can bring you and I down.
It usually weighs on us heavy and isn’t exactly positive.
But if we can change the way we see this event, we can change our entire identity.
It is like watering a root of a troubled plant.
We don’t have to change the entire plant, just the root.
So I want to challenge you to really think about how the worst day of your life is actually the best day of your life.
What can you glean from it that you can see it in this light?
Even if you can’t see it as the best day of your life, see it in a different light that makes you see positivity in it.
For example my brother died, and he had no structure in his life during childhood.
We were half brothers. Different dads.
His dad gave him everything but love.
When he died, I wanted to change this fact, where young kids have personal development and growth in their home.
Now I am in the process of creating a non-profit that will be targeted at doing just this.
I challenge you to find purpose in your pain. It will change your life forever my friend.
Fully Accept Compliments
When it comes to getting complimented, you and I may simple not let the other person give them.
Someone may say, “Hey you have great dressing style!” and we may respond with someting like “Thanks but there was a great deal on these clothes!”
We dismiss the compliment. Which is subconsciously telling ourselves that we aren’t worth being complimented.
This brings down our self-worth and self-esteem drastically.
It also takes away the joy for the person giving the compliment.
Accept them fully. Just say “thank you”. That is all you need to say!
Unfollow People Who Make You Jealous
This can be actual people in your life. Or simply celebrities or models.
Don’t follow people who make you feel insecure. Follow people who empower and inspire you.
Master Your Craft
Committing to mastering something in this life can bring about a deep sense of accomplishment.
People know that this is what you do. That you do that well. And it reinforces your belief in yourself and in your mastery.
It gives you an air of superiority in a good way.
You know that you are spending your time well on this earth. And devoting your life to something that truly matters to you.
You aren’t pursuing it half hearted. You are all in.
And this trait will carry over to other areas of your life. Letting you bring more intensity, passion and energy into every other area of your life.
Learn Something New
Pick up a course on learning a new language. Read a guide on how to work on cars. Read a manual on how to build a treehouse then go do it!
Learning new things and implementing what you learned can bring you happiness. As well as a feeling of progress.
Don’t Blow Everything Out Of Proportion
We live in a society that tells us that if we aren’t a rockstar, pro athlete, supermodel or massive business owner, that we aren’t good enough.
There is so much falsehood to this.
Just look a teacher shaping the mind of a young boy, in an educational sense, raising the next generation.
This is massively successful in my opinion.
We need to realize that just because we aren’t world renowned, doesn’t mean we aren’t super special.
You don’t need to be recognized nationally to be someone. You already are someone. Know this and internalize it.
Look At Old Photos
I love going through my camera roll and thinking back about old memories. There could be some good laughs, awwww moments and simply a revisiting of good past memories. Let yourself go down memory lane!
You can even download them and create a big digital photo album and let them run on your screensaver on auto-pilot!
Don’t Run From Pain
Pain is the biggest and best way we grow. If we had no pain, we would remain the same. We wouldn’t evolve.
Run towards your pains. If you do, with enough speed, you will have a breakthrough.
Plan Your Week
I know that I always feel better about my life when I plan things out ahead of time.
It lets me know that my life is making progress.
Plan your week ahead of time. And pre-prep your meals before hand. This will give a you a sense of being ahead of the game.
How To Feel Better About Yourself When You’re Are Overweight
So the fact of the matter is, again if you are feeling bad about yourself from being overweight, you can feel better about yourself when you are overweight.
Because we choose how we feel. So the first step in feeling better about being overweight is to choose that you don’t have to default about feeling bad about yourself. That is what society has taught us.
We have to feel a certain way. That way they want us to feel.
Don’t get me wrong. I am not telling you that it is OK to be overweight. I don’t think it is wise to be. I think you and I need to be in good shape. To enjoy life. To do the things we want to do. To live life with energy. To play with our children and grandchildren one day.
It is the key to a happy existence. And if anyone tells you different, they are trying to sell you something. Or simply sell you on living a life of mediocrity. And if you know me at all from reading this blog, you know that is not what I promote here.
I want the best for me audience, and that is why I will tell you that it is not a good thing to be overweight.
You and I can and have the ability to have the body of our dreams. Which takes us to our next point. Embrace the fact that YOU have the power to change and transform your body.
And the next thing that you can do when it comes to how to feel better about yourself when you are overweight is to know that you can make whatever fitness goals in your life happen.
Know this. Internalize this. Live and breathe it. Start here. Start with the positive belief that you can change your direction today.
Next is to create a game plan.
Let’s just say that you want to lose 25 pounds.
It seems like a lot to any rational human being. When you look at the number as a WHOLE.
But that is OK, because I am going to give you a solution right now, OK?
Break the goal down to the ridiculous. Which for examples sake, lets say that you want to lose the weight over a course of an entire year.
That equates to losing essential 1/2 pound per week. Already sounding more doable right?
Next, you want to reduce it even more. Break it down to the day. You have to lose .071 pounds per day! You can literally LOL at this!
That is how we start to feel better about yourself when you are fat or overweight. Knowing that the path to change takes a very small amount of positive effort daily. Which if we simply stay the course, we can reach our goals.
Knowing that the way out is extremely simple mean that we can have hope for a better future. That we won’t be this way forever. And you and I will no longer feel overwhelmed by the path ahead. Because it isn’t about the final goal. It is about hitting the super small daily goals, day in and day out. Until we have our final goal.
Focus on positive change ONE day at a time.
Lastly, to feel better about yourself when you are out of shape, we need to be envisioning our body as fit and strong. EVERY morning, see yourself as already having your perfect and desired body.
Every time you slip and start to feel bad about yourself for being overweight, simply jump back on the train. Envision yourself immediately after feeling down, as the perfect human specimen.
Keep your mind on track by seeing the future as it would be happening now. Begin with the end in mind.
Commit to taking action today. Get a gym membership. Join online communities of people trying to lose weight. Immerse yourself with positive content around health and fitness. Follow good blogs. Get on a monthly magazine auto-ship. Throw away healthy foods.
And if you need to, go see a therapist. Often times, past experiences can make us want to use food as a vice. To suppress hurtful things.
Use all of these tactics a well as the list of tips above. If you and I do, we will experience excellent change and transformation.
And that way, not only will out body look phenomenal, we won’t rely on it as much to feel good. Because we will already feel great about ourselves.
We will have worked on the mental game too. Strengthening our internal environment to withstand anything.
At this point, having a good body will be a bi-product of the internal work we did. As you can’t change your outer world permanently without changing your inner world.
Our world is a mere reflection of our thoughts about ourselves and the world at large.
Change your internal world, and you will change the image you see when it is reflected back to you.
Also, don’t hate yourself for being fat. This is not an empowering place to create change you and I desire.
Simply love the heck out of yourself no matter what. Don’t love yourself for being fat. Because this is embracing a negative quality that you have the power to change.
But love yourself for being yourself.
Where you are isn’t a reflection of what you can be. It is simply where you are. Your current location doesn’t have anything to do with your final destination.
Know this, embrace this and live this. And you will feel better about your health and the endless possibility of living in the body of your dreams.
Lastly, make the decision today that you will change. That when you look in the mirror, you don’t see yourself as fat. You see yourself as the fit, healthy and happy new you.
A decision comes from the Latin meaning “incision”. It means to cut off any other alternative to the contrary. You either do it or die. No in between. No escape clauses.
Use the power of making a decision to your benefit. Never give up. Be relentless in the pursuit of your goals.
And also, shoot for improvement over perfection. Get started right where you are to remedy these feelings of feeling bad about being overweight.
The smallest amount of progress that is not perfect, will make you feel a million times better than waiting for the perfect time to start. Start now. This will make you feel better.
Lastly, stop weighing yourself. As a matter of fact, throw away that scale!
Simple go off, for progress purposes, how you are feeling and how your clothes are fitting.
How To Feel Better About Yourself After A Break Up
The way you feel better about yourself after a break up is to see yourself as completely valuable still. There are BILLIONS of people in the world. Just because ONE person doesn’t see your value doesn’t mean that you aren’t valuable.
Look at it this way. Maybe you weren’t bad people, just bad together.
The next way I want to encourage you to not feel bad after a break up is to not seek your worth to be validated by jumping into another relationship.
You are taking yourself into every relationship you go into. And you will be taking the same self into the next relationship if you move on super quick.
You and I must reflect on why it didn’t work out. What were we bringing to the table that made it not work. Even if it really was most of the other persons fault, we have our faults too.
Be honest with yourself. What made it not work out, that was caused by you. And once you identify that, you can work on it. You can read books on bettering toxic habits. You can get therapy. You can choose to let things to.
Once you and I bring the unconscious conscious, we can then change it permanently.
That way, when you go into the next relationship, you won’t be the same person as you were in the last relationship that didn’t work out.
Giving you more of a chance to make the new relationship last forever.
See your worth as still being high after being broken up with. As well as take hope in the fact that you are fixing your challenges, so that you can bring an entirely new you to the world of romance.
Hanging out with good people will help you feel better about yourself after a break up as well. Don’t isolate yourself. That will only cause you more pain. As we are our own worst critic.
Our friends and family can bring new perspectives and more positive outlooks.
Also, you and I can employ them to help us figure out what we need to work on. Ask them for honest feedback on what you may have been doing to cause challenges in the relationship.
These people love us and want the best for us. Whatever the say, don’t take it with a grain of salt. Really listen. They can provide valuable insight into how we can change and transform into a better mate because of it.
Lastly, to feel better about yourself after getting out of a relationship, hit the gym. Depressive moods from breakups can really put you down in the dumps. Your mind goes to the negative. And you get in a negative feedback loop that has too do with isolation and everything that went wrong that brought the relationship to a close.
Hit the gym. Listen to positive podcasts while working out. Smile at yourself in the mirror. Take solace in the fact that you are changing your body and actually creating a good thing from a bad thing.
And hey maybe, just maybe, you will meet a new likeminded person who is healthy and hot!
Also, if this relationship ended with you being cheated on, the best way to feel better about yourself is to know that you aren’t the one that cheated.
It takes very broken person that cheats. They aren’t secure with themselves and don’t value themselves enough to have a healthy relationship.
It wasn’t you that was the problem, it was them my friend.
To feel better about yourself after getting cheated on, refrain from feeling like you were the reason.
Also, just know that life is like the seasons. If you can make it through the night, there is a brighter day. Sunshine follows rain. Day follows night. Spring comes directly after winter.
Also, to feel better about yourself, look at it this way. At least it happened now. You know no and you won’t have to deal with it years down the road.
They are saving you years of wasted time. These years will be time where you will grow yourself and find the perfect mate. A mate that will not cheat on you. Love you for you. And be strong enough in themselves to never have the need to cheat. Devoting their love only to you.
How To Feel Better About Yourself When You Are Pregnant
Let me tell you this my friend, just being a male. Pregnant women are the ultimate form of beauty. It represents new life. And YOU have the ability to create that!
As well as, again speaking from a guys perspective, pregnant women are super sexy!
Just from a primal point of view, we men see you as being the bearer or life. And there is nothing more attractive then this.
I hope this helped you when it comes to how to feel better about yourself when you are pregnant.
Look at yourself as a creator and a life bringer. You are bringing into this world a beautiful soul that will impact the world.
Look at your strength that you have for going through this process. As a pregnant women, you go through emotional and physical pain constantly. Without ever complaining. This is the true essence of perseverance.
You are going through the ultimate sacrifice. Sacrificing your own body for the betterment of another.
You are powerful as heck when you are pregnant!
Of course, to feel good about yourself when you are pregnant, you can also be walking and hitting the gym still. This can help ease the pain of being pregnant, as well as help you stay in shape too.
It also is really good for the baby!
Also, identify why you may be feeling bad about yourself for being pregnant.
It is usually having to do with gaining weight. Which is completely understandable. But let me tell you this, this is completely and widely accepted by the world!
Of course you are going to gain weight. You are carrying another human!
But at the end of the day, just know it isn’t permanent. Look at it as not even your weight. It is nourishment you are giving to and for the baby.
I want you to see yourself as a powerful force that is a walking miracle. That should be yourself image from now on, OK?
Don’t buy into the stigma that you need to feel bad about yourself because your body is changing. Feel empowered that it is changing. See it morphing into a goddess that is breathing life into a soul.
That is powerful!
As soon as you go to criticize yourself, realize this path doesn’t work to happiness. Right when you catch yourself doing so, instead speak empowering thoughts to yourself. You have the power to choose what you are thinking. After all, it is your brain!
Also, simply accept your “flaws”. If you see them as flaws and can’t get past that, it is perfectly OK. Don’t try to fake feeling great about something you don’t.
Truly give gratitude and thanks and acceptance to the things you view as flaws. You will start to notice that you don’t feel as negative about them.
You will actually start to see them as assets. As the negative feeling was just clouding truthful judgement. The more you negate negative feelings with positive feelings and thoughts, the less clouded your viewpoint is. Allowing you to see the real truth.
Lastly, look at your situation in a way that expands on how your drawbacks are totally your greatest assets.
It is going to take some work, and yet it can give you the freedom to see yourself in an entirely new light.
You are where you are, and if you are feeling bad about being pregnant, we need to shift our identity. From being one of judgement for our flaws, to seeing them as the dynamite that makes us the scorching hot human beings that we are!
Do this and you will set yourself free entirely.
Feel Better About Yourself Quotes
“If it does not make you feel better about yourself, then it is not the best answer. And if it does not make you happy, then it is most definitely the wrong answer.” – Karen Madewell
“When you feel good about yourself, it carries over into everyday life. If you can look in the mirror and like yourself, that’s the greatest feeling in the world.” – Dick Bryant
“Dear self, when you start taking care of yourself, you start feeling better. You start looking better. You start to attract better. It all starts within you.” Unknown
“You can feel better about yourself in a very short period of time depending on the kind of magic that you are doing.” – David Copperfield
“Beauty begins the moment you decide to be yourself.” – Coco Chanel
“Doing something for yourself like running, and using it to test yourself, will only make you feel better about your career or your family role.” – Joan Benoit
“If you want to improve your self worth, stop giving other people the calculator.” – Tim Fargo
“Once you have accepted your flaws, no one can use them against you.” – Tyrion Lannister
“People who make you feel better about yourself when you are sad are so important.” – Unknown
“Give yourself permission to close the door to toxic people in your life.” – Unknown
Conclusion To Tips For Feeling Better About Yourself
So there we are my friends. A compilation of the most powerful tips of all time for how to feel good about yourself.
Whether you are looking for ways to feel better about yourself when you are depressed, anxious, worried or just in general. I hope this list has given you hope and practical ways to go about using to bring more contentment into your life.
I would love to hear what your favorite tip was. What you have done already to help you feel better that maybe wasn’t on this list. As well as any other feedback or advice you have on the topic that can help us all build self esteem higher and higher in our lives!