It is funny, peace of mind seems elusive to most, if not all of us at one time or another. It seems like the pursuit of happiness. The pursuit is guaranteed, but is ultimate happiness, and in yours and I’s case today, peace of mind actually attainable? And not only attainable but sustainable?
Well it’s a great question, and I am glad you asked it! I think FOR SURE. Just like with anything in life, if someone has peace of mind, then we can have it to. If someone is living a certain way, then we simply follow the footsteps of that person. And when we do so on a consistent basis, then we ultimately get similar, if not better results.
Now of course, I can only speak for myself and yet I have made some changes in my life over the last few years after hitting rock bottom. A time in my life that provoked positive growth and ultimately setting me on journey to finding more answers and ultimately more happiness and peace of mind.
And today I am going to delve deep into the tips that have worked for me to help me feel more calm and bring more peace into my life. Both in the short term and long term. In hopes that you can use the tips in your life as well to help you reach you goal of having more peace.
To help you cut the learning curve and speed up your results. Allow me to be your coach for the day and walk with you side by side. As well as provide you with tips that I have intentions of implementing in my life to ultimately stack that compound effect completely in my favor, to achieve my own peace on earth, or get as close to I can to it in a permanent way.
Peace of Mind Meaning
No matter how you slice it, peace of mind is different for you and me and everyone else. It is something that when attained, we feel at our best. We feel happy, healthy and even prosperous.
It feels so good because all of this is our natural nature. These feelings are our true being-ness.
It can even feel unnatural because life can push us so far away from our true nature that it can feel even euphoric when we tap into it.
And yet the more we do things that bring us peace of mind, the more we remember that peace of mind is our true nature.
It is stay congruent with our hearts desires, doing things that we know we should be doing even when we don’t feel like doing them.
The real meaning of peace of mind, in my opinion, is doing things that quiet our mind. Because when we quiet our minds, we are quieting thoughts that are in a sense, not us. We didn’t show up with them, we manufactured them.
So when we quiet our mind, we feel a peace that passes all understanding. It can’t be conceptualized, it can only be experienced.
So in a sense, peace of mind is transcendence of our false self/ego, and simply being ourselves. The all knowing, all loving, happy, healthy and powerful us. Our true nature.
Peace of Mind Synonyms
vAgain, going back to what peace mind is, peace of mind synonyms for you and me will be more personal, related more towards what we feel peace really.
For some, it may be money in the bank, some it may be loving and passionate relationship with their mate, others may be working tirelessly towards changing the world or it may be as simple as being grateful each day for being alive.
The more personal we can make it, the better. Because the more we allow ourselves to ask ourselves the deep questions about life, the more we can get closer to happiness for us. Not happiness in a way that the world is telling us we can find it in. But in a way that will bring us sustainable happiness and peace.
Here are some actual thesaurus synonyms for peace of mind:
- High Spirits
I don’t know about you, but just simply reading this list made me feel better! These are powerful affirmation and words that we can also be using and seeking on our journey for the attainment of peace of mind.
Ok enough of the other appetizers, let’s get into the main dish! The main event. Tips on how to attain peace of mind.
So without further adieu, lets jump into our list.
How To Achieve Peace of Mind
Start Saving Money Now
The general rule of thumb is ten percent of your income goes into savings. Of course, you can do more or less. The important part is to simply just to get started. I started saving ten percent of what I was making and also got an app that helped me invest passively called Acorns. It simply rounds up your purchases and invests the spare change.
For example, if you but a coffee for 2.50 it will round the purchase up to 3.00, investing the extra .50 cents into a savings account.
Have Short and Long Term Goals
Goals bring us hope in life. It brings us a feeling that we are progressing. And progress equals happiness. Even if we have yet to reach our goals, just knowing we are on the right track feels good.
Having short and long term goals with a plan for goal achievement is imperative to having more peace of mind.
As nothing brings more turmoil to our minds than not having direction in life. Direction dictates our whole entire mood. And once we start to move in the right directions, you and I’s body and mind can start to relax into the feeling that we are making good use of our time.
Not only do goals give us a roadmap for our lives, they also help us have more power to say NO to things that bring us LESS peace of mind.
If you know you need to get up early and go to the gym in order to be in the best shape of your life to keep up with your kids, then it becomes easier to say NO to going out for drinks and staying up late.
Like I said above, goals give us direction in life. It makes it easier to say NO to things. But of course, it doesn’t make it guaranteed. We are only humans so we will be tempted.
The main thing is to focus on building our mental fortitude. Meditation can help us in this regard.
A great article talks about how mediation can help build mental fortitude and toughness in soldiers along with boosting mood. Being tougher mentally as well as having a better mood can make us simply feel better about ourselves. And this can quickly result in having more peace of mind.
Resource: Breathing Exercises For Anxiety
Resource: 201 Affirmations For Anxiety
Do The Hard Things
This is a follow up to building mental fortitude. We can either take the easy route in life, and our life will be hard. Or we can simply do the hard things and our lives will be easy or easier.
Those tough things are the things we know we should be doing but maybe aren’t doing.
And let’s face it, you and I simply have to live with ourselves 24 hours per day. We are alone with our thoughts all day long.
So the more we can do things to keep our mind positive, the better. And this comes down to you and I doing the things we need and know we need to be doing. Once we do, we can go to sleep at night knowing we did what it took that day to start building a better life.
The more we stack the deck in our favor, the better we feel about ourselves. And again the better we feel about ourselves, the better we produce. This results in long term peace of mind.
It is a grind and struggle everyday to win these little micro battles within ourselves. And yet the more micro battles you and I win, the more we are likely to win the ultimate war within ourselves.
So when you and I want to stay home and watch TV but we know we haven’t hit the gym yet, we need to get up and go to the gym. If we know we need to stay tight on our diet, but a friend asks up to go out for dinner, then we simply need to either not be going or put even more willpower into it and eat something healthy at dinner.
You and I need to get better and better with not negotiating with ourselves within our minds. We tell us what to do, not our mind. We have the power, sometimes we simply forget that we are the masters over the internal dialogue, not the other way around.
Treat People Good
I don’t think there is any other tip I can give you on how to have more peace in life than to simply pay it forward. It is the age old rule, do unto others as you would want done unto you. It has held its old weight for all these years.
Knowing that we are treating people right, we feel a sense of positive impact in the world. It also goes congruent with how the human organism works. We are genetically engineered for survival. We do things that give us the best chance of survival.
This goes back to the tribe days where we did good things for the people in our tribe to build trust. Just in case we were every to be in a sticky spot, everyone would have peace of mind to trust us. As well as not vote us out into solidarity from betraying the tribe.
This meant long term survival, longer life.
This is why treating people good just feels right. And when we are doing things in congruency to how we are wired, naturally we will feel more peace of mind, and ultimately just more peace in general.
Resource: 261 Random Acts Of Kindness
Get Rid of Bad Habits
We all have them, we are only human. And yet the more we can tame these negative habits, the more peace we will feel. Not only will we be trading weak energy vibrations for strong energy vibrations, hence just helping our whole body and mind vibrate higher. We will also be enjoying the feeling of mastering ourselves.
Self mastery is very important thing to be seeking and going after each day if you and I want true peace of mind.
The more we engage in mastery of self, the more we leave behind weaker versions of ourselves. The more weak skins we shed, the stronger and tougher our skin becomes. This is when we see ourselves completely eliminating bad habits. And really becoming unrecognizable to ourselves and others because of the internal growth we have done.
Think About Your Deathbed
Although this may seem morbid, if we always look at our decisions, big or small, from our deathbed, it can give us insight, a lot of it.
So let’s say we want to take the job of your passion, and yet you and I are scared to do so because we don’t want to lose our steady income.
We can run this choice through our deathbed experience, thinking about if we will regret if or not if we don’t take the job.
If you think you will regret anything on your deathbed, do the opposite. The thing you would do to not have that be a regret.
We all will have a certain amount of regrets in the end. And yet you and I can minimize them by asking ourselves this question. For big or small things.
Peace of mind will come from this because you are maximizing your life and going with your souls desires if you choose to do the things that will not leave you with regrets.
Have you ever had an argument or a frustration in your life and you take it out on straightening up your home or car?
And what happens after? You and I feel better!
There is something to de-cluttering and cleaning. Throwing away the things we don’t need. A purge in a sense.
Guide: How To Live A Simple Life
When we eat unhealthy, there is a subconscious fear inside us that we are eating our way to an early grave.
At this point, if I were to suggest that we eat healthier, it would be empty. As nowadays, fast foods are so addictive, they are literally like a drug. And yet, if we simply start slow, eliminating one bad meal for a week, then two per month, then 4 per month, then we can start to permanently change our diet.
Let’s you and I, make it a point this week to eat a healthy meal when we are tempted to go out and get something quick.
These little wins will set us up for bigger wins to where one day we are in complete control of what we are putting in our body.
Laugh More Often
Laughter mediates any type of lower level emotion almost instantaneously. Haven’t you ever been REALLY mad, the someone says something funny?
At this point, we try to act tough and stay made, and sooner or later, we break! We can’t stay composed because laughter overtakes us.
Let’s use this tactic in everyday situations.
If someone cuts us off, and we find ourselves in a state of anger, lets step back from the anger and just laugh!
If we get called into work when we thought we would have the day off, laughter will help us accept what is.
It is a healthy and free way to cope with the lows life with naturally bring.
Look, we can’t help people as much as we possible can, if we aren’t at our best. That means taking care of ourselves so we can put our best foot forward when it comes to being there for the people in our lives.
It also shows ourselves that we see ourselves as valuable and deserve to be treated good. This will also show up in our relationships, as we show people how to treat us, and treating ourselves good will give people subconscious permission to do the same to us.
Resource: 61 Self Care Ideas
Be Honest With Yourself
Sometimes, as Zig Ziglar said, we need a check up from the neck up. This is checking in with our mental environment.
You and I have both been in a spot in life where we are lying to ourselves or at least not giving ourselves the FULL truth.
For example, at a time in my life, I had a problem partying too much. I justified it by saying that it is “just what young people do” or “people party WAY more than me, I am just having fun”.
At first it wasn’t affecting in areas of my life. But then it started making me feel more tired at work and not working as hard. As well as me forgetting and missing out on family occasions.
I had to look right in the mirror and tell myself, that I HAVE A PROBLEM.
Once we admit the truth to ourselves, it will set us on the path to more freedom.
Denial is a slippery slope.
If we have a weight problem, we need to be telling ourselves that we are fat. Not that we are big boned or it’s just genetic.
If we have marriage problems, we need to be completely real with how bad it is. Go get therapy or leave if it is too toxic.
The more black and white we can get with our lives in the big areas, the better steps we can take to eliminating bad habits and replacing them with good habits.
Get Health Check Ups
Peace of mind comes from KNOWING we are on the right track.
If you are like me, you HATE being blindsided. It is the worst to not know what is coming then have egg on our faces.
Let’s focus on health prevention. Some things we should be monitoring for our health include:
- Colon Cancer
- High Blood Pressure
- Cervical Cancer
- Enlarged Blood Vessels
- Breast Cancer
Also just in general, it can help to hire a dietician or personal trainer and have check ins with them.
When we are kept accountability by someone, naturally we act better in our daily lives. We have someone to answer to.
All in all, just a yearly check up can really put your mind at ease knowing that nothing is sneaking up on you.
Sleep It Off
A solid 7-8 hours a day is crucial if we want peace of mind. As if we aren’t rested, our bodies don’t really feel at ease. When we have tired muscles, our posture tends to get worse as well. This results in hunched over shoulders and head, which cuts off part of our oxygen supply.
When you and I are well rested, our minds function better. We have less brain fog. We are able to use our body with more energy and vitality. Hence having more peace of mind because were are operating more effectively in every area of our lives.
Leave It All On The Field
We all know the feeling of not giving it our all. We feel as if we had more and should have done more.
The way to get peace of mind, to where your pillow becomes your best friend instead of the reminder to a day not fully lived, is to give it all we have.
Each day, day in and day out, lets try to put all we have into everything. Milk every hour with productivity and time well spent with the people we love.
That way we will feel as if we are using the most limited resource we have, time, wisely.
Tell The Truth
The thing is, when we are vague or aren’t saying what is truly on our minds, we can get caught in the trap of thinking we should have said more or simply said how we really felt.
The more we just say it how it is, the less we will think about the past and how we communicated ourselves.
Let’s say what we mean and mean what we say. Otherwise we will be wondering when we are going to get ours.
Journal Your Way To Peace
I don’t know about you, but when I have journaled in the past, I have felt MUCH better. Just talking about it now, I want to start it as a regular practice.
There is power in emptying my head through our pens. In a way, it is giving us insight into what is really going on.
As often times there are so many thoughts happening, it is hard to hone in on what is really going on.
We can journal out what is going on and then if we have to, implement solutions to our anxieties.
Align Your Heart With Your Head
Spend Time With Friends and Family
Look, I get it, work life balance is not really feasible. We have to put money on the table and we have to be working hard in order to really solidify our place in our job and/or business.
And yet, in order to have peace of mind, we need to be hanging out with our loved ones.
I am not saying everyday if you can’t. But even a simple text, loving voicemail, random act of kindness or quick coffee date.
I mean God for bid something happens to someone we love and we wish we could have spent more time with them, or told them we loved them more.
You and I must be living as if we are on limited time, because we are. And so are the people in our life that means the most of us.
If you are like me, you waste time here and there. Instead of doing something that is a distraction, let’s set up that coffee date with grandma, lunch with the parents, and a hike with a friend.
And in the process, letting them know how much you value them and truly are grateful that they are in your life. Little acts will go a long way.
Be A Social Media Minimalist
Social media hasn’t changed us, it just has made it easier for us to fake it that our lives are better than they really are.
One time, I had no money, I was so broke that I had to go back to using a flip phone because I couldn’t pay my phone bill.
I remember literally going through social media withdrawals, not being able to access it on my phone.
It lasted about a month, and then I noticed that I was actually happier after this passed. I didn’t really miss it anymore. I focused on things I should have been focusing on, paid more attention to my lady, and simply just got more done with a clearer mind.
I was in my own lane, not worrying about others.
Just writing this, I am actually thinking about going back to that flip phone!
At very least, let’s you and I do our best to limit our exposure to social media. Just checking it our in the morning and in the evening. Twice a day, once in the morning and once at night.
Even put it in your profile that you do so. So that you don’t worry that people will be bothered if you don’t get right back to them.
Grow From The Critics
The fact of the matter is, there are always going to be people telling us where we are missing the mark. These critics in life, are the haters. The people trying to get us down.
And if we submit to them with anger, resentment or even verbal or physical abuse, we lose.
And if you are reading this blog, I know you are a winner.
We can either use this as water to put our flame out. Or you and I can simply go another route and let it be our fuel to our fire.
We can accept the fact that people are critiquing us. But realize, often times there can be some truth within this critic.
And if we use the the small or large amount of truth imbedded within the critique, then we can simply get better. And getting better sparks the beautiful journey of life progression. And once we gain some momentum, it truly starts to become permanent growth. And very hard to stop.
Resource: 50 Ideas For Self Improvement
405 Quotes About Self Improvement
Stop Having To Look Over Your Shoulder
You know the things we do in this life. That make us maintain a small or large sense of paranoia. We forget to pay someone back, and then we end up seeing them at a ballgame. Trying to avoid them and constantly worried about them seeing us.
Or you and I get a little to flirty with someone who is in a relationship, and now we are worried about their mate taking some revenge.
We should be thinking ahead before we do these things.
If you and I can’t pay that person off in full, we need to be reaching out to them and filling them in. Honesty will go a long way. It displays good leadership and builds very good trust.
Congratulate Your Successes
There is something about us human beings that either give ourselves too much credit and take our foot all the way off the gas when getting a win. Or in most cases, and if you are like me, we we end up simply bypassing our stop and keeping our foot on the gas.
We are passing up a spot where we should rest and enjoy our win a bit.
This will bring us both peace of mind for the mere fact that we will be living life.
If we are too concerned about getting to the finish line, we can’t refuel at the pitstops. And ultimately we will run out of gas because of it.
We are reward driven beings. And it helps to reward ourselves so much because it promotes the idea of more victory in the future. The path doesn’t look dismal like it does if we never celebrate anything.
So let’s find a balance between resting on our laurels too long, and not resting at all. In that space, there is balance in which we can soak in the greatness, and then move onto to bigger and better greatness.
Dance like its the last night of your life! Dancing to some solid music or simply driving around that listening to your favorite songs has always been a good go to to clear my mind. Simple but powerful!
Or even go for a bike ride and allow yourself to finding sync with being in the moment. Enjoying the wind on your face and hearing the sounds of nature and the city around you.
Do A Full Body Stretching Routine
Stretching is a phenomenal way for us to find peace of mind as it is very meditative in it’s nature.
We can really find peace through stretching by focusing on our stretches. Feel the tension. Breath into the areas that are being stretched. And take deep and full breathes into your stomach and blowing is fully out of your body through your nostrils.
Create A Highlight Reel
Sometimes we just need to go back over our lives to show us how great we are.
Try listing out ten things that you are extremely proud about that you have done in this life.
Peace of mind is created from inner turmoil. Inner turmoil is often felt when we feel as if our lives are not measuring up.
Again, everyone has these feelings of insecurity, it is part of being human. But we can prove to ourselves our value by writing out things we have accomplished and are proud of.
Let’s literally write until we can’t write anymore. Let’s make a list of 1000 things if we can!
Let Go Of Cultural And Society Norms
We all know the feeling of feeling like we are behind. It is what makes people marry the wrong person. What makes people take jobs they hate just to pay the bills. And what makes people feel depression and anxiety because they feel like they are missing the mark that society has placed on us.
Look it is still very cool if we getting married after thirty, have kids after 40, become homeowners after 40 and find our dream job late in life.
IT IS OK! Lets make it a point to make our own scales on which we weigh our own happiness. Forget what we are “supposed” to do. This is all fabricated anyways. It is stupid! Let’s just enjoy life and know we will get “there” one day, and just enjoy the journey between that time.
Take A Shower
Nothings brings me a bit of short term peace in my mind the nice fifteen minute showers!
I can literally be so mad about something, and after my shower, I can go from a 10 to a 4 in emotions about an event!
Be the Victor Not The Victim
At times, you and I can feel as if we are the victim to live. That we were handed a raw deal. Or that others are succeeding easier or faster than us.
And yet ultimately, in order to have peace of mind, we need to be seeing ourselves as the masters of our own fate and the captains of our own souls.
Once we assume responsibility for everything, we start to feel in control. And since lack of peace of mind is created by a feeling of being out of control, we can really take the power back by taking massive responsibility over our lives.
Invest For The Long Term
Warren Buffet, the almighty legend of buying stocks, talks about how the best strategy for investing is to buy and hold forever.
Getting into the stock market to make a quick buck will most likely results in short term thinking, which when we are thinking in the short term, we make rash decisions.
If we think in the macro level, we are thinking in decades over days or months. Every single recession in the USA has resulted in an upturn in which it became a better market than the last. EVERY ONE.
The longest recession of all time in the states lasts a total of 65 months, with the average recession lasting around 15 months with the expansion of the market lasting around 48 months.
So if you and I invest and we don’t get scared and sell off our stocks/investments, then we can really profit over the long haul. And again, advice from Warren Buffet, when everyone is scared, he sees the most opportunity.
Quadruple Down On Strengths
We are all told to go get better at things we aren’t good at. To become more well rounded. To become a better overall asset to the marketplace and to the world at large.
I say that is exactly the opposite of what we should be doing. i truly think we should be locking in on the things we are phenomenal at. Then from there we can drive deep on those things.
We need to be getting away from the old school system way of thinking. To where we want to get straight A’s.
Although that may have been a great way to attack that time of our lives, it just isn’t feasible to be great at everything.
Not only is it not feasible, it is impossible.
It is also impossible to get great at one thing if we are trying to be good at everything.
The best way to ultimately attain peace of mind is by doing the things you and I are good and naturally gifted at. We become so good that essentially we not only can’t be ignored because we are so good. And we take solace in the fact that we are become masters at things.
We are essentially using our precious time to develop the gifts that were bestowed upon us.
This way, we won’t be thinking about what we lack. We will be in a constant state of becoming. And that is a powerful place to live.
When we begin to know ourselves, we can be our best selves.
Looking in the mirror is tough, if you make it. Looking in the mirror can actually be the best thing in the world for us and the people in our lives. And ultimately the world at large.
At the end of our day, let’s be journaling out what we did good and what we need to improve upon. So that each day we are getting better.
Have The Conversation That Is Holding You Back
I got this tip from Gary Vaynerchuk. I think the guy nailed it on the head when he talks about how the people in our lives are holding us back. And it is all our faults.
We often do things in life to make people in our lives happy. Like the jobs we take or the people we date. Naturally, we want to make the people closest to us proud.
And if we are doing this, then we need to have the tough conversation with the people we are doing these things for.
Just bluntly telling them that we love them and yet we are going a different path. A path that will bring you and I much more happiness and fulfillment.
That we will live life on our own terms because we aspire to reach a deep state of peace of mind for ourselves. And then encourage them to do the same.
Usually, the reaction from the other person will be very positive. They will simply let you know that they have always wanted the best for you. And as long as you and I are happy, they are happy.
Don’t Focus On Micro Losses, Focus On Macro Wins
Often times, we are more concerned about our little losses, because of the simple fact that we are playing finite game. But if we see this game as an infinite one, then we think more long term.
Social media has enabled us to get quick boosts of feel good hormones simply by positing pictures and then going and looking at all the likes we have.
Amazon prime lets us get stuff ASAP. We can binge watch entire seasons of TV shows in an instant and not have to even wait a week for the next episode any longer.
And yet, when it comes to how to find peace of mind, we need to be looking at success and happiness as a long term game.
So what if it takes us ten years to build that business, get that promotion, find that mate.
We need to be shrugging off losing a client knowing we will have 100 in ten years. We should be letting go of not getting that promotion this year when we can be running the company over the next decade. And simply moving on from the bad date in hopes and expectations that if we just keep dating, we will find our soul mate.
Lets make a commitment to think long term with our goals and dreams. So we aren’t tempted to give up after our first losses.
Doing it this way will give us peace of mind as we will simply just move on and keep pushing forward. Instead of having losses on our minds, we will see these micro losses as stepping stones to our bigger victories in life.
Lack of peace of mind comes from having a fixed mindset. We all know the type of people who think it absolutes. That they are either good at something or not. They have a certain IQ and it can’t be changed. They are stubborn and that is the way it has always been and always will be.
I know I have thought this way before in my life in the past.
And yet we have the choice of how we look at the world. We can definitely change, grow and transform. We just need to foster a growth mindset.
You and I are at the top of the food chain. We are the apex preditor. We can do anything we want in this life. We just need to see ourselves as capable and malleable.
So then when we look at ourselves this way, we know that we have what is called latent potential.
We have something that is referred to as junk DNA. At one point it was seen as just extra wiring. But now, it is seen in the scientific field as something that enables us to grow and get better and change, and do so rapidly.
Resource: Growth Mindset Vs. Fixed Mindset
Read, Read, Read
Readers are leaders. The more we read good self help books, the more we put good ideas into our mind. Ideas in equal ideas out.
And just speaking from a personal standpoint, for some reason, my anxiety melts away when I read. And there is a nice residual effect that is experienced when I do. An hour or so afterwards, I am able to stay calm.
Now look, these books don’t all have to hail from the personal development greats, and yet blend them in.
Read enough positive material to where you don’t have to pick up a self help book when you are down. Let’s make it a commitment to simply read enough good material that we stay up instead of having to get up.
Once you and I grow ourselves to a certain extend, optimism will just become more natural and a permanent new way of living.
At this point, peace of mind is a natural byproduct. For the fact that since we are in a sense, “bigger” and our consciousness has expanded, we naturally see the problems of life being much smaller and easy to manage. At this point, old level 7 problems now look like level 3 problems,
This brings peace of mind as we now KNOW we can handle anything that life happens to through at us. And become better because of it.
Only Thing To Fear is Fear Itself
We need to be acknowledging our fears and essentially letting them know that you see them.
If we aren’t in denial mode. We aren’t able to break through our fears if we are simply not looking at them dead in the eye.
When it comes to how to find true peace of mind and ultimately more and more courage comes from facing our fears head on. Not trying to skip around them.
And I am talking about creating a unshakeable character.
So lets, you and I today, make it a point to face our fears. If we are scared to do something, we use it as an indicator to attack instead of retreating. Deal?
Peace of mind will come from this because fear is very loud in our heads. And it gets louder and louder when we don’t face it.
When we don’t face it, this means that we will have other thoughts that will stack on the originals. These negative thoughts will consist of self defeating content that comes from retreating.
It is a negative perpetuating and self fulfilling prophecy.
And yet we can use the same energy to create a positive self fulfilling prophecy. By simply going right through our fears.
Resource: Stepping Out of Your Comfort Zone (101 Examples)
Don’t Blame Anyone
The blame game is another slippery slope. We can feel as if we aren’t achieving or goals and dreams because we are being held back. By the way we were raised, by the bad teachers we had, or that we had things fall through that should have happened.
We all have challenges to overcome, this is just part of life and what makes is beautiful when we do overcome them.
And yet if we are blaming anyone but ourselves for our lack of anything, we need to stop today. I’ve done it, you’ve done it.
Let’s commit today to stopping this right in it’s tracks. Let’s assume entire responsibility for our lives, day in and day out.
When we really think about mental turmoil, it comes from being discontent. So the opposite of peace of mind is unrest of mind. The mind can’t truly sink into a place of solace ahnd silence.
When we feel as if we lack, we naturally our left questioning how to find peace of mind without really feeling as if there are any solutions.
The more we seek to silence the mind, the more peace we have. And when we are grateful, we are not coming from a place of lack. We are simply acknowledging all the great things we have in this life.
There is no fear when we are grateful. This is a simple truth. So whenever we are experiencing any type of fear or unrest in our minds, let’s fall back on stacking gratitude. For anything and everything that we have in our lives.
The fact of the matter is, most the world lives just a mere couple dollars a day. IF we are living on any more than that, we are extremely lucky and prosperous.
Here is a list to help you if you need some ideas for gratitude:
Play With an Animal
Animals have mastered the art of peace. They just want to be with us when we are with them. They have no hidden agendas. They know unconditional love through and through.
Peace of mind can come fast through just hanging with animals.
If you don’t have any, you can always give your time to an animal shelter.
Believe You Are Worth It
Let’s face it, often times the things we desire most can be elusive to us. For the mere fact that we don’t think we deserve these things.
For some reason, somewhere along the way, we forgot that we amazing. That we are Gods children, and that we live in an abundant universe.
Let’s simply give ourselves permission today to allow abundance to flow through our life in every single area of our lives.
Treat Other With Empathy
I read a book called Leaders Eat Last by Simon Sinek, which if you haven’t read it, I suggest it highly.
It talks about leadership in organizations and how companies essentially outlast their competition.
It talks about how when companies focus on the numbers over the people, they create an environment that is more dopamine driven. It works in the short term, but it is very cut throat, causing people to become toxically competitive. As they know that if they don’t hit certain numbers, they may not have a job come 1st quarter.
And yet companies that cultivated the receptors of serotonin and oxytocin, created long term sustainable upward growth. And best yet, the culture was happier and trusted their team.
If we want to be leaders in our life, which we need to be in order to live a good life on our terms, then we need to be focusing on people over the numbers.
In every area of our lives we should be approaching our relationships with empathy and essentially, like the book talked about, worried about our people on our right and our left.
They know we have their backs, and in turn, naturally we will find that they have ours too.
Also, in cultures that executed this correctly, people were healthier and enjoyed their jobs more. Hence enjoyed their life more as they felt that they had purpose in their life, through a job they enjoyed.
Cortisol levels, being the stress hormone, were lower in these companies as well. Created a more harmonious internal environment.
Let’s never forget that we are more similar than we are different. And too see people as individuals with hopes, dreams and insecurities similar to us. If we can see the world from the other persons point of viewpoint more often, we will create a world worth living in.
Wherever You Are, Be There
We are all in such a hurry. And yet when we are in the shower, be in the shower. Let’s not be at the office when we are in the shower.
Or let’s not be thinking of an upcoming meeting while we are having breakfast with our loved ones.
Let’s you and I try our best to be where we are. Because life is too short to be in the future all the time in our minds, but not present in our bodies.
You and I have had people in our lives do pretty terrible things to us. Maybe we were bullied, or verbally abused. These people were hurting and that is why they hurt us.
When we see it this way, it makes it easier to let the anger go. And truly move on.
The more we do this, the lighter we feel. We are able to cope with life on a much higher vibration, as we are not engaging in lower level emotions that block happiness and abundance from flowing into our lives.
Stay True To Who You Are
You and I know when we totally lock in on being ourselves. There is a sporadic-ness to it. It feels nice. We say something funny or we tell it how it is. It comes from within our being. It feels so natural.
That is the feeling of being ourselves.
The more we can stay true to us, the more peace of mind we will have. Because of the sheer fact that it is hard to act like someone we are not.
Say what you mean and mean what you say type of thing.
And most importantly, lets be doing work that we simply love and adore. If you aren’t and need some help, check out this post I wrote just for you.
Guide: How To Find Your Passion
Affirm Your Peace
There is a power in repetition. We are a bi-product of our most dominant thoughts.
The saying you are what you eat should have been “you are what you think”.
Haven’t you ever wanted a certain color car and model so bad, then you start seeing it everywhere?
This is our Reticular Activating System working in our minds. It attracts our most dominant thoughts.
Lets you and I affirm what we want to come into existence. Envision your goals and dreams coming true throughout the day.
And the next stage of affirmations are incantations. Where you use emotion and moving your body powerfully while stating the affirmations.
Here are a couple articles I wrote for you that can help you and I stay on track:
Resource: 1001 Positive Affirmations
How To Set And Accomplish Any Goal
Non Peaceful People Have To Go
Look, first off, before I get into this tip for us for peace, I am going to blatantly admit to you that I WAS the non peaceful person before. That had to go! And people left me.
So we are all falling short, and it is important to give people grace as none of us can walk on water and are perfect.
And yet, let not only limit the time with non-peaceful people as well as focus on making own lives peaceful with this list. So we can also be that peaceful person in that persons life in our circle in which they need us to help them reach a higher level of peace.
And lastly, lets really commit to simply refraining from defaulting to mad and angry and sad, etc when we are around non-peaceful people. As the real test in our growth is how we maintain peace when the world isn’t giving it to us.
Let these trying times be more of a challenge that helps us moved toward, rather than a obstacle to our peace.
Commit To Peace
10 Peace of Mind Scriptures
“Peace I leave with you, my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.” – John 14:27
“May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope.” – Romans 15:13
“Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace among those with whom he is pleased.” – Luke 2:14
“Turn away from evil and do good, seek peace and pursue it.” – Psalm 34:14
“”For he himself is our peace, who has made us both one and has broken down in his flesh the dividing wall of hostility.” – Ephesians 2:14
“In peace, I will both lie down and sleep for you alone, O Lord, make me dwell in safety.” – Psalm 4:8
“For God is not a God of confusion but of pace. As in all the churches of the saints.” – Corinthians 14:33
“May the God of peace be with you all. Amen.” – Romans 15:33
“Let him turn away from evil and do good, let him seek peace and pursue it.” – 1 Peter 3:11
“Mark the blameless and behold the upright, for there is a future for the man of peace.” – Psalm 37:37
Conclusion To Peace of Mind and Happiness
So I leave you with this. If we simply commit to this process, we become a student of life to where we become life long learners through a growth mindset, and we do not tolerate anything that takes us away from peace, we can do away with the question of of how to find peace of mind, and simply enjoy the answers to the question.
We will be walking and breathing example of someone who has found peace. And because of it we can bestow it upon people in our lives to change the world at large and make it a better place for us all to live in.
Let me know you advice on the subject, and if you have any tips that I missed that have helped you find more pace in this life.
Thank you so much for taking time out of your day to hang out with me a bit.
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